#shameblogging

[theunemployedrogue]

I know hardly anyone likes them and even the writers apparently thought the Ferengi were a swing and a miss in DS9, but personally my sense of humor is so in shambles I find them fucking hysterical. Like to the point I cannot get through any Ferengi-focused episode without losing it every five seconds.

Rewatching "Family Business" atm and I'm in stitches, how tf did Armin Shimerman say any of these lines with a straight face?? 😂

[halfdeadfriedrice]

hi sorry just realized that blood types correspond to a/b/o so there really is no more need to fight about what character is what as long as you know their blood type

[sportashame]

It has arrived. The time when I must fight my darkest impulses.

[sportashame]

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

My  completed, unreasonably sentimental Dads! fic for anyone who missed it and might be interested.

I legitimately think it might be the best piece of prose I’ve ever written.

[sportashame]

It’s never kept consistent whether jumping out of his airship will kill Sportacus or not.

Sometimes Sportacus uses his stupid little peddle-glider to get 50 ft to the ground, and sometime he’ll just FUKKIN JUMP.

And sometimes he’ll be dangling off the AIRSHIP and everyone’s like “STOP FIRINF BALLS AT HIM ROBBIE HE’LL DIE”

WHICH IS IT, MAGNUS?!

[sportashame]

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

Chapter 6 of my Dads!AU fic is now up. Gosh this one’s getting away from me a little bit.

[sportashame]

I was talking to a friend about D&D races and classes for Lazytown characters

Solike, Sportacus would be an Elf Monk. All the flipping and non-violence.

And Robbie maybe a Half-Orc, because he’s big and tall and his features are kinda rough. He’d probably be an Arcane Trickster (half Rogue half Wizard), because there’s something kinda magic about his sneaking.

Stephanie would be a Human Bard, because she’s all about singing and dancing, and Bards are basically cheerleaders to begin with.

The rest I’m undecided on. I figure they’d be smallfolk of some kind. I hear there’s a class called Artificer which might be good for Stingy, but I don’t really know enough about it.

Anyone got any thoughts? You think there’s a Oneshot in this?

[butyouvealwaysbeenthecaretaker]

It's on my mind, though, because having dated a Clive I...think its an experience which is a bit bigger than an optimistic "some people are asexual and that's ok" politic can contain. Like, I don't think it invalidates asexual politics or experiences or people, but I do think it...

I guess I want there to be space where I can express how destructive it was. And it does help to have 100 years of gay dude lit backing me up on this; it helps knowing I'm not the only one, and it also makes me feel more certain being able to advocate for this strongly, because it's a well documented problem. Dating people who may-or-may not be straight, or asexual, or gay (but not into you), or gay (but into you, but super ashamed), is a complete nightmare and it wrecks your soul. The problem isn't people who are out & happily living as asexual. It's specifically the Clives: the "idk wtf your deal is" people.

And I feel like the presence of an asexual politic when I was coming out made it a lot harder to clearly label why it was so wrong - I wanted to support my partner's boundaries and needs, as if they were neutral and OK - and also entrenched an already deep-seated shame - there was something wrong with me for not being able to support those boundaries and needs. I feel like there was a political background of "it's wrong of you to want to kiss someone who doesn't want to be kissed", rather than "it's wrong of your partner not to want to kiss you". And in truth, both of those statements are like...neither person in the dynamic is "wrong", it's just mismatched needs. But I needed the loudest voice at that time to be a gay one - a voice saying, you have a right to kiss girls, go and find one who's into that. A voice telling me that Maurice/Alec is the true love story and happy ending of the novel, and if you're more into Maurice/Clive then you're still one foot in the closet. A voice saying that, actual, one can't really be neutral when it comes to ones own sexuality, and while acceptance may work on paper, it's not the right approach for your relationship.

"all asexual people are bad bevause they won't sleep with me" is definitely the Worst take here. And I don't think any of what I'm discribing is a reason to support an exclusionist position either.

But I really don't know how to express what happened with the vehemence and the urgency and even the warning...in a way which doesn't implicitly or explicitly withdraw support from my asexual bros. Like, the answer is kinda just an intersectional approach, making space for all voices while understanding what they say may not be relevant for other subgroups present. But I feel like the intersectional approach is part of the problem, really; an approach which discourages you from seeking and prioritising the specific, personalised support you need, in favour of a more amorphous allyship to everyone.