Hey, I'm trans and I want to say that your views are really harmful to our community. Lesbians, gay men, and transgender people can coexist, and sometimes transgender people are lesbians or gay men and that's okay. If you just listened to what we were saying instead of what you think we're saying, maybe then you wouldn't have those views.
Lesbians don't have to like trans genitals, and neither do gay men. However, you do have to accept that we are the gender we say we are, just not a type of person of that gender that you're attracted to. And we're allowed to be upset that you aren't attracted to us, like a lesbian can be upset that a girl is straight, but we can't be mad at each other for liking who we like.
And that post was saying that looking for signs that you were trans isn't very helpful, as everyone is gender non-conforming to some extent. I used to love pink and wear skirts, but that never made me a girl. I love computer science and the color blue, but that isn't what makes me a man. It's just the knowledge, self-awareness that you have deep down, that something is wrong with how people perceive your gender. That's what being trans is.
I hope this makes you understand.
Hey, I appreciate you trying to help and educate me. But I used to be trans, I'm still disphoric, and I have listened to trans people, that's what got me to this point. You're not just preaching to a non-believer here. I'm an apostate.
I don't hate trans people, contrary to popular belief. I don't think all trans people are saying lesbians have to like penis, but the trans movement at large is pushing for that. I don't think all trans people are saying homosexuality is immoral, but the trans movement at large is pushing for that. I don't think all trans people are trying to outlaw sex-based protections, but the trans movement at large is pushing for that. I don't think all trans people are pushing for woman to be defined by stereotypes and to women put in their place, but the trans movement at large is pushing for that.
Gender is a social construct. I don't have to accept that anyone's gender is anything because gender was made up to oppress women. Your sex, however, cannot change, and as a homosexual I am exclusively attracted to the same sex. Nothing to do with anyone's gender. I'm not attracted to identities or pronouns, I'm attracted to female bodies.
There's a difference between someone being sad someone isn't attracted to them, and that person feeling so entitled to a group of people who are inherently not interested that they send rape and death threats and try to "cancel" those people for their inherent, immutable sexual orientation being "discriminatory," as if our bodies are a public utility they are being denied access to.
I understand feeling deep down that something is wrong with your gender. Trust me. I'm the same way. But it does not change your sex, it does not the biology or social structures or lack of attraction from others that is associated with your sex. And often the feeling that it is wrong arises from internalized homophobia and/misogyny, that one isn't like "other girls" so she must not be one, that it's wrong or predatory for one to be homosexual so they must be the opposite sex instead.
I can coexist with trans people. But my rights as a woman and as a homosexual cannot coexist with the trans movement. I hope this makes you understand.
