#singlemotherbychoice

[singlemombychoice]

Currently at the stage where I get excited when I’m bloated because I can pretend I’m pregnant for just a moment

[singlemombychoice]

Wasn’t expecting to get my LH surge for another week, but that means I get my IUI TOMORROW!!

[singlemombychoice]

Was so excited for today because I just started my cycle and when I phoned the fertility clinic they said I couldn’t have an iui this month because of Christmas. Ugh!! 😅

It was supposed to be last month too, but I didn’t have a credit card at the time so I guess it’s just another test cycle for me

[singlemombychoice]

I had my consultation with the fertility clinic and it went so good. The doctor was amazingly kind and open-minded (It’s a fertility clinic/gender clinic which is a super sweet bonus). She asked my pronouns and all her medical descriptions where very factual with gender neutral language. I don’t know, it was just a nice conversation.

I got great news too, I’m ready to go for an IUI whenever?? All that’s left is to pick out a sperm donor. Wow!!

[singlemombychoice]

Just bought some pregnancy tests for the first time because I’m worried that they won’t do the HSG test without one despite me being a single, lesbian virgin.

I couldn’t be less pregnant 😆

[singlemombychoice]

I’ve had at least a hundred blood tests, and yesterday was the very first day that I fainted after it. Fasting and ten vials is not a good mix

[emma8895eb]

As a single women that will be 26 and has always wanted kids and to be a mom . Lately I’ve had a fear I may never have that chance as I’m getting older and you can only have kids for for so long. I was on Tiktok and women in my similar situation was able to have kids via IUI ( Intrauterine Insemination). She really helped me understand I can be a single mother by choice. I mean say Tom Felton, Taron Egerton Tom Holland or Richard Madden came along and wanted to have kids I definitely wouldn’t say no. Anyway thanks for coming and reading my long post have a fabulous day ☺️!

[crazyjanesays]

the importance of sperm

knowing that things look good inside means that i now have some really fucking serious decisions to make. i have always wanted a coparent. for most of my childhood the idea was marriage and a husband and kids and just a neat little package. now that is unlikely to happen because the only romantic future i can imagine is really not feasible without something drastic happening. so instead i’m hoping to find a coparent in a completely different way. 

the idea of finding a platonic coparent is only possible because of the folks in the 20th century who forced the world to acknowledge that there are an infinite number of ways to make a family. the neat little package isn’t for everyone. and because of the women who used turkey basters last century, i can now imagine making a family with someone that i have no romantic interest in. i remember watching Grey’s Anatomy and there was one episode with two women who were both pregnant and they turned out to be best friends who were planning on raising the babies together. unfortunately for me most of my friends are either spoken for or not interested in kids. the one friend i had who was also interested in having kids and willing to do it without a romantic partner lives in another state. 

luckily it’s the 21st century so there’re websites and apps and such. unfortunately, the websites don’t seem to have a ton of people on them, as if i missed the boat by about 7 years. there’s an app that’s a couple years old. i’ve heard a couple of folks on the facebook group talking about meeting someone on it, so i am spending time on it this week. 

the day after my RE appt i scheduled an emergency therapy session. she helped me talk through things. she helped me come up with a timeline. if i haven’t found a coparent by the end of 2020 i will go ahead and buy anonymous sperm.  still so many things i haven’t even touched on.