#skateisawesome

[skateisawesome]

i saw 4 whole other people so this so here i go!

if this gets 2k notes by february 14th i will:

start therapy (or at least see a counsellor)

dedicate more time to learning french

start writing again

start a skincare routine

i really doubt that will happen but we'll see!

[mhizzberry]

hey this might sound weird but im currently writing a story that heavily involves talking about the experience of being aroace. i js wanna be as accurate and inclusive as possible so if you could share some thoughts or experiences you think should be included that would be literally incredible

thanks! <3

Hello! I appreciate that you're approaching actual aspec people for your story! That's already a good first step in making sure they're represented well 👍 But I would also like to preface that I'm just one of many aspec people, and just like any other person in the queer community, our experiences and opinions vary! So I recommend listening to other aspec voices aside from my own :)

That said though, I think a huge thing about the aspec experience is having to constantly face amatonormativity, which is the belief/assumption that EVERYBODY pursues romantic relationships, especially to get married in the end. In a world that constantly pushes you to have a romantic partner, otherwise you'll "end up sad and unfulfilled in life", it's annoying at best and isolating at worst for someone who just doesn't prioritize or want that, y'know? This is what I would consider a common challenge in being aspec.

(although, amatonormativity hurts EVERYONE, regardless if they're aspec or not. I suggest reading the article "Amatonormativity: The damaging pedestal of romantic love" for a basic understanding of that point. You can also look into Elizabeth Brake's 2011 book about it entitled "Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law", since she coined the term!)

To subvert that though, one thing that makes me happy about being aspec is the realization that I don't need romance or sexual relationships to be happy! Picture this: I'm surrounded by peers who sulk and pout that they don't have a romantic partner. I'm surrounded by peers who yearn for their crushes to like them back (even though they never interacted with them. whats wrong with you /lh). I have peers that sometimes even openly confess how sexually frustrated they are. But in my case, I'm already satisfied with the platonic relationships that I have; I don't want + need anything else. And I honestly feel empowered by that fact. ("hashtag unbothered" as they say.)

So, yeah! That's a gist of my personal experience as an aspec person. Again, I'm just one of many, so keep looking into other aroace experiences! But I'm sure you'll eventually find common themes to include in your story. Good luck!

[skateisawesome]

i keep seeing these so if you reblog this then i will give you a compliment.

i will unashamedly stalk your account and tell you the things i like about it. or ill just judge you based off your general vibes and tell you what i think of your internet presence!!

[skateisawesome]

why did you choose the name Skate to use online? (it's not bad, i'm just curious :D

it was a nickname that i got called when i went on a trip last year

i wasnt called it by many people so i knew it wouldnt be recognised by anybody

and i kind of like that the meaning of it is secret so not even anybody online or in person knows

also i js think its cool

[skateisawesome]

Is skate really that awesome? I mean I think so. You seem really awesome in my opinion. But still is skate really that awesome?

i am in fact not awesome

but thank you for thinking that i am!!!! thats so kind

i am the least awesome

[ghostly-schematics]

hi! i saw that you liked percy jackson and im currently watching the show but havent read the books, i am a big reader but the series kinda overwhelms me bc there are a lot of books.

is it worth reading? should i read it / do you reccomend??

hello! I absolutely love the percy jackson books, and they’re definitely a good read! not too generic and loads of cool characters.

I was also really overwhelmed by the sheer amount of books when I first got into it, but it can help if you think about the books as lots of smaller series. The first five books are a great starting point to get into the rest of them, and even then you can just read those five as their own series if you want ^_^

but yeah, I would definitely recommend! (and thanks for the ask!)