#sleeping separately

[somerandomgal19]

The story’s going along fine for now, but I’m just saying for a series titled “Leveling up my Husband to the Max”, 30 chapters in, there is still a distinct lack of levelling husband.

[jasonraish]

The culture of making our kids sleep separately for Emory Alumni Magazine.

[hdydi]

When One Twin Doesn't Want to Nap

Since my twin daughters’ birth, one has been a better sleeper than the other, even though they were put on the same schedule from the beginning.  While they were both good to me at a young age and slept through the night, if someone were to get up at night, it was Lisa, and still is Lisa.  If someone were to take a long time to fall asleep, it was her as well.  But, my other daughter, Alison, almost never gets up at night.  Alison can sleep through her sister’s night wakings and subsequent crying and bedroom door opening and closings.  She really only gets up if she is sick or something.  It is wonderful.

At nap time, Alison is generally much quicker to fall asleep.  She just needs her special blanket.  And she can then sleep for at least two hours but has been known to sleep for up to three, or, on a rare day, even longer.  Her sister Lisa on the other hand, fights taking a nap with tears, requests for books, drinks of water, and protest of, “I don’t want to take a nap!”

So, my husband and I have tried numerous thing to coax Lisa to nap every day – rewards for taking a nap; punishments for not taking a nap; loving words; threats; sitting in the room until she falls asleep; ignoring her; giving her books or a toy; moving nap time back; and so on.  But, that girl can happily roll around her bed for an hour, and still not fall asleep, frustrating her parents to no end at the same time.

Lately, Lisa is hit or miss with napping.  It seems more often than not, she does not take a nap.

So, my question is, to all the seasoned MOMs out there – what do you do when one of your twins seems to be done with naps?  I am stubborn and still try putting her down for a nap every single day, at the same time that her sister Alison goes down.  I know my girls are now three, and that maybe I should just be grateful that they’ve napped as long as they have, but naps are precious to me, especially as I have a newborn and desperately want to take a nap each day too!  Plus, she gets destructive and defiant when she doesn’t nap, and is then ready for bed much earlier at night than her sister.  I really don’t like them on different schedules.

So, when did your twins stop napping?  How did you encourage a stubborn napper to sleep? Or what did you do with them once they stopped napping?  Quiet time?  And what did that quiet time look like?

  ldskatelyn is a wife and mother of three kids, including a set of three year old fraternal twin daughters and brand new newborn son.  She works hard to mantain balance in all things as she stays at home with her kids and runs the household, supporting her grad student husband.  She blogs about her life and other things over at whatsupfagans.blogspot.com. 

When One Twin Doesn’t Want to Nap was originally published on How Do You Do It?

[thelifeofkaiblog]

I'm tired of not sleeping in the same bed :(

•*•*• 9th June 2016 •*•*• No pun intended with the title, but it's so depressing to spend each night without him :( he's not even getting great sleep when I'm not there! It's sad because I want him to sleep and bought him some "Sleepeaze" to help, hopefully. I miss being with him and his exhaustion is making everything harder for him to deal with. It's been over 2 weeks now, I think, and it was only supposed to be a few nights :(

[thelifeofkaiblog]

The sleeping arrangements feel permanent :(

•*•*• 8th June 2016 •*•*• It physically can't be because we don't have a spare room, I'm taking up the space in my dad's tiny office every night, but there's no end in sight and that's deeply saddening. I miss being able to feel his hand on me when I'm falling asleep or seeing his face when I wake up. I'm going to see if I can get him something over the counter for aiding sleep because the doctors (apparently) won't prescribe anything if something OTC hasn't been tried first. It's not even that he's not doing anything; he's spending a fair amount of time downstairs, in the garden and going to the doctor/nurse, so he's tired enough. It's depressing that the only thing we can do is hope it will pass :(

[thelifeofkaiblog]

I feel so sad and lost without him by my side :(

•*•*• 3rd June 2016 •*•*• If I seriously struggle to get through multiple nights in a row without him in bed with me, even though I'm seeing him every day, how the **** am I supposed to get through it when he goes back for another year?! :( I literally feel suffocated without the comfort of him being next to me - it's such a horrible loneliness.