#snootchdog

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By no inclusionist are you referring to a-spec inclusion?

yes, if you include cishet aces/aros or cis aroaces in lgbtpn spaces please don’t follow or interact

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I've been on your blog for like 3 posts and already I love you? And the way you discussed your friends Paul & Ryan, with language that I know means so much to people with DID (I do not have it myself, but people so am close too are part of a system) !! So good, so nice to see stigma being stamped out of our language. Basically just thanks for being you because the world needs more people like you.

Awww thank you so much for this lovely and super kind message. I’m honestly very touched that you were moved to message me like this. I do try hard to learn more each day about the diverse reality that is human existence, but it’s super duper duper hard sometimes haha. On the other hand, it’s also incredibly rewarding and fills my life with all kinds of hope, love, and goodness - things I personally need to survive given my long history of bullying and abuse.

I mean, as a singlet (the extremely adorable word for non-Multiple systems, btw!! <3) before meeting my multiple friend Ryan (and Paul to some extent, but it was mostly Ryan teaching me, who both run the blog @transduotacklinglife) I knew nearly nothing about multiplicity and knew of it only as “DID” and “MPD”. 

However, Ryan taught me how harmful these labels are when applied to multiple systems; whose experiences are neither “disordered” nor causing them harm. For example, Ryan also showed me a website that was very helpful, explaining that:

MPD is short for "multiple personality disorder". DID is short for "dissociative identity disorder". Both of these not only rely on the word disorder, but DID also implies that there is only one person who has a delusion that there are others. Interestingly enough, DID is a diagnosis used only in the United States.

So what exactly is “Multiplicity”? The same website says:

Multiplicity is a state in which many people share one physical body. Being multiple means that one exists as part of a group of people, with all the benefits and drawbacks and chances for talents or interesting natures that any other group of people would have.

It is not automatically a disorder, and it is not automatically something which must be changed in order to promote mental or physical health. It is not automatic godhood, proof of genius status, or even proof of severe sexual trauma.

So if, as a singlet, I’m understanding this right: Multiplicity is just another state of being, that doesn’t necessarily or intrinsically cause people any harm. People in multiple systems are just as complex and unique as any other individuals and they deserve to be treated as such. 

This means it’s important to smash the harmful stereotypes around multiplicity that associate it with mental health disorders like schizophrenia & DID. 

Anyway, thank you again @snootchdog for this lovely message and for giving me this convenient opportunity to discuss and share what I’ve learned in the last year about multiplicity, thanks to the kindness and patience of the @transduotacklinglife; you both rock my socks! 

Also, to all of my multiple followers, please know that you are very welcome here and also feel free to correct me if I make mistakes! <3