me after talking to my genderqueer bisexual friends: yeah idk I feel like I have a pretty normative relation to gender? like I'm cis, but not On Purpose, it's just what I am. and not in a default 'I just work here' way, either, I took a good look at gender and went 'idk what that's all about but I will be keeping this one.' I never feel like I'm performing gender but I also don't know what it is. and yeah, I'm queer, but aro-ace is basically the absence of a relationship to relationships, so it doesn't really shape my self-image or how I interact with people, you know? sometimes it feels like I'm not 'really' queer. like I pass in my own head, kind of.
me after talking to my normie friends who've never interrogated the concept of gender: oh. oh wait no. no nevermind I am so so queer actually. I forgot you guys live like this.
