#solamente siempre

[transastronautistic]

somebody help me, my wife is being too hot while i'm not allowed to kiss her and i might explode (she's working out 💪)

[stimmingsensation]

my wife got me a beautiful moss agate specimen as an early birthday present! bonus: a neighbor’s outdoor cat who likes to play with us. we don’t know his name so we call him Gray Baby🌜💎🐈

[a-queer-seminarian]

it was my wife’s birthday last week and I made her a homemade strawberry cake (besides the frosting cuz i ran out of strawberries for that oops)

Leah wanted me to try lipstick for the first time so i did and i think i looked pretty cute! also — love my bread and roses earrings

[transastronautistic]

Help me name the soundproofed closet I’m making to have meltdowns in! Here’s what my wife and I have come up with…

The Rage Room

Studio SCREAM

Chamber of Shrieks

The Zone of Overwhelm

Other (you tell me!!)

Voting ended onAug 13, 2024

More context:

my therapist and I have been talking about meltdowns, and she helped me realize I’ve internalized this idea that I must Always Avoid Meldowns, that they’re to be repressed at all costs —

And she was like “By all means do what you can to regulate yourself so that you don’t get to the point of a meltdown, but if you get to that point you just gotta let it out man”

And I was like. Oh. Oh damn. 🤯

“But I don’t wanna scream so loud my neighbors get worried!”

So my therapy homework was to create a space where I’d feel safe to have meltdowns when I need to. And my wife has been so sweet — the moment I told her about it she was online looking for stuff to put in it, and putting together a design plan 🥹

I know she’s really glad to have a, like, actionable way to help me with my mental health stuff. She needs a Project and this has been just the thing.

…anyone else have a meltdown / sensory safe space?

[transastronautistic]

Just a little life update post💫

First up: date night / weekend:

When I started sitting by @hyperfix8edcryptid in bio 101 all the way back in fall 2012, the first real conversation we had was about Mussorgsky’s Pictures at an Exhibition — so when Leah saw that the symphony was going to be performing it, we knew we had to go! 🎻

The next day we walked along the wooded trails just outside our new neighborhood (we moved to a new place in November, same city but now free of our crappy landlord) — it was chilly and drizzly all day so we had the place practically to ourselves (apart from the birds, who were plentiful). Child me would be thrilled to learn I now live walking distance from a woods that has a lake, creek, spring-fed pond, and community garden! Also, Leah found a fallen rose on the path and presented it to me with a flourish 💕🌹

So that was a lovely weekend. 2023 has already hurled some curveballs at us all in a row (scarily sick kitty, canceled surgery due to insurance probs, family crisis), so we’ve both had some Sad Times and a lot of Tired days — yet I’m feeling pretty darn content with life overall right now. I feel like our new home fits us really well, and it’s been fun decorating it. It’s still a little messy but check out my craft space (the trans flag hides two shelves with storage bins full of crap haha):

And then there’s our bedroom walls! Leah’s got hats and stuff hung up on cute hooks on her side, while I’ve decked out my side with my rock and thimble collections as well as a bunch of art I’ve gathered over the years:

So yeah, slowly but steadily *kronk voice* it’s all coming together.

As spring peeks its head around the corner along with the daffodils, I’ve been dreaming up ideas for the yard — moss and clover, beans and tomatoes, peppers and pollinators…

We are also planning to add some kitty-proofing to the top of our privacy fence because we let our cats out there, but Flapjack keeps jumping the fence and forcing me to chase after him before he can get far. Bastard boy. The culprit:

Aaaand his sister Nerys, who finds her own ways to be a bastard and would totally jump the fence too if her old arthritic hips allowed it — as it is she takes her joy from looking out the kitty window:

Anyway, this has gotten long enough. Excited about what the spring brings 🌸

[transastronautistic]

celebrating my birthday with my wife has been fun & chill! we danced to cute music while making a strawberry cake. ate it while watching the sweet-sad gay-ass ep of The Last of Us because i've been trying to get her to watch it with me and since it's my birthday she had to lmao. now she's picking up pizza and we're going to halve a delta8 gummy and ????

[transastronautistic]

my beautiful wonderful smart goofy wife is realizing she’s some flavor of butch + not cis 😈😍

[transastronautistic]

@hyperfix8edcryptid and i celebrated our 4th anniversary up in Ohio this past week. It was so good to see our little nieces, my bro, and my parents 🌈💚

Also look at the frog and toad print she got me it’s too perfect 😭 My mom’s verdict on it: “awwwww cute…I didn’t know they were gay!”

Simple ID: various pics of me and Leah, both white people with short brown hair, on a hike, at a Lake Erie beach, and one where Avery is holding up a small black and white print of Toad offering Frog a bouquet of flowers over the words “the lovers”