Avrum from The Band's Visit ESFJ by Rebecca requested by @solidikeafurniture
Extroverted Feeling (Fe) "Love starts on a downbeat. Love starts when the music starts. Love starts when the tune is sweet and you lift your feet to the beat of your heart." Avrum is warm and friendly, choosing to be open and positive about his emotions both sweet and bitter. When he reveals that his wife died, instead of becoming upset he uses the opportunity to share the love he found in "The Beat of Your Heart." He is able to find companionship and understanding through this song, bringing all of the men in the house to celebrate the past together. He welcomes the members of the Alexandria Ceremonial Police Band into the home, trying to spark conversation. Even though Iris and Itzik are in the midst of tense spot, he remains open and tries to keep spirits up among everyone.
Introverted Sensing (Si) "Sometimes it feels like we're moving in a circle, around and around with the same scenery going by. But no one's complaining, we're experts at waiting..." Avrum finds comfort and stability from the past, seeing it as both a driving and grounding force in his life. He remembers every detail of the time when he first met and fell in love with his wife, down to the ribbons in her hair. He acknowledges a sense of sentimentality, especially about such an important and emotionally charged moment in his life. In "Waiting," he seems content with the notion of moving in circles, even if he can feel a desire to move to something new. He's willing to find the good in things that stay the same, and willing to find excitement in possibilities and newness (Ne).
Extroverted Intuition (Ne) "Violin. I play in wedding, bar mitzvahs. All songs, Beatles, Rolling Stone. Klezmer. It's how I meet my wife. Iris mother." Avrum is both energetic and excitable, showing enthusiasm when new opportunities turn up in his life. He often repeats "wow!" after discovering some new fact about the members of the Alexandria Police Band, externalizing the excitement he feels. He does not seem phased by their presence and how it could threaten the status quo, but welcomes it as a source of new ideas. Back when he was in a band, he played all kinds of music, and was open to all kinds of experiences. He took a chance when it came to first connecting with the girl who would one day become his wife, even though she had come with someone else.
Introverted Thinking (Ti) "So maybe I'm romantic. Maybe I'm a sentimental fool." Avrum tends to be more focused on keeping harmony present than confronting and analyzing problems at hand. Though there is a deep tension between his daughter Iris and her husband Itzik, he never directly confronts the issue until it explodes. He is aware of some sense of conflict, taking care to comfort Iris, but chooses to divert energy from the problem rather than solve it. He focuses deeply on the memory of his wife in an emotional sense, deliberately choosing to lean into the feelings of the music. He acknowledges that he may be looking through the past through rose-colored lenses, but at the same time doesn't seem to mind if he's letting things become so sentimental (Si).
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