#sorry long rant

[forgo-me-not]

see the thing is. the thing is (for me anyway) dan is so easy to love on sight right? like you look at him and you go - oh. oh ok you’re funny and relatable and fucking hot as hell and you’re exactly who i could see myself growing up in the image of even though i’ll never be as All That as you but you’re so easy to model off of (especially for a trans neurodivergent like myself). but then phil… phil creeps up on you and you start off watching dan and danisnotonfire and dan and phil and phil’s there, phil’s amazing (no pun..) but it’s dan who’s the main focus because he pulls you in, he demands your attention.

but then it’s like you look up one day and phil is giggling and clapping his hands in a video and it’s like. oh shit. didn’t expect that. he’s not who i’d like to be more like every day (tbh that would be exhausting) but you can’t help but be encouraged to try and not be so afraid to emulate that energy sometimes because how can you fear judgement for whimsy chaos passion when he’s in that stupid fricking blow up chair on the hard launch set giggling and kicking his feet about getting those buffy questions right?

anyway all this to say everyone needs to love phil lester 500000% more send that man all your vibes he deserves the world <3

[vivicella]

“kuroko is a bad mc” “kuroko is a boring mc” You will start coughing in 3 seconds

[simplemindedmockingjay]

Was I supposed to feel any warm fuzzies when Yotha and his mum had their reconciliation moment?? Cause I sure as shit didn't... I hate the mum more than ever after this scene because it's even more evident to me now that she doesn't care about her relationship with her sons, she just cares about her own comfort.

She's only been so focused on fixing things with Yotha because he's loud and abrasive in his dislike of her, and that makes her life harder because she can't ignore it. But look at the others.

Newton is completely emotionally disconnected and apathetic. He takes the news that his mother is moving roughly 6000 miles away with the same level of emotion you'd give a casual acquaintance, with "well if I'm ever in your neck of the woods we should catch up" energy. And I think this is because he genuinely doesn't care, he hasn't relied on his mum since the divorce and is of the 'no expectations means no disappointments' mentality. The mum is fine with this distance because it's subtle and non-confrontational, which is comfortable for her. Who cares that his coping mechanism is unhealthy, at least it's quiet.

Then we have Faifa... I could, and do, cry when I think too hard about this poor boy. His mum ripped him out of one family unit and then shoved him out of another. And why?? For her own convenience. In her own words, she took him to live with her because he, the child, would experience enough separation anxiety to force her, the adult, to keep in touch with her other kids. Thats a level of emotional abuse that I dont even have the language to try and explain... and then she fully admits that if she'd taken Yotha in the divorce, they'd have never seen her again.

Then, we can only assume, especially after the "your stepfather and siblings ask about you all the time" comment, that he wasn't shoved out of his second family due to unresolvable issues or something like that. It sounds more like, at some point, it became more comfortable for her to keep these two chapters of her life completely separate. This trauma has made Fai such a people pleaser that he's completely unable to process, let alone call out, his mums shitty actions and is instead left feeling like a burden who constantly has to prove his worth. (Don't even get me started on the fact that his mother practically rips his self worth away, admits she didn't want to live with him because she loved him but purely for convenience, drops the bomb that she's abandoning him again, and then he offers her a lift to the airport!! Like he feels the need to prove his worth one last time.) But at least, from the mums perspective, this isn't uncomfortable or overt, so she doesn't see, or chooses not to acknowledge, the obvious hurt he's going through cause its easier for her not to. She gets to keep her comfort through willful ignorance.

So yeah, it's nice Yotha has had a chance to get some closure, but at what cost??

[mad-not-disappointed]

suf: shows the main character's trauma in full seriousness, with very real symptoms, they get the love and support they need at the end, actually starts seeing a therapist and leaves their home to start a new life

audience: boohoo this show is so dumb, it demonizes mental illnesses and solves everything with a hug

spop: shows the main character get into a relationship with their abuser, their character arc is left incomplete and all of their trauma is brushed under the rug

audience: omg such a good representation of trauma! this show is so mature!!

[crying-in-converse]

i want my black belt so bad it means so much to me. and i only want it for me not for anyone else. sure im so excited to see how proud my dad is. how proud my teacher is. but i need this for myself. i need this to prove to myself that i can be hardworking and dedicated. that i can stick to something for three years and love it despite the times i hated it and almost gave it up and that i can still hold that love for something i chose blindly to do 3 years ago. i need this black belt for my self and i am going to get it i am sure of it. the only thing in my way is how hard i am willing to work. and if i can stick to something for three years there is no way i can give it up and let it blow away now, in the time i love and need it most. i need my black belt as a reminder to myself that i can do things. i need my black belt

[horrorofthebeast]

You know what. I really do want to be the person who stands up about schizophrenia. I want peopld to know what its actually like. I know some schizospec people have a platform of some sort to talk about it. But even then. Its not big enough. Not nearly enough people are seeing and listening. Maybe because people DONT wanna listen.

Its so so very misunderstood even by people who work in a psychological field. Im not discrediting the people who know as much as i do, but i am discrediting people who dont know a huge chunk of it and are spreading information with whatever their platform. I havent seen anyome do this but im sure there a people out there. Because.

If they knew, then there should be some sort of medication that treats the negative symptoms of schizophrenia. But there is none and no one ever talks about the negative symptoms. Hallucinations are so so over romanticized and over horrorized to begin with. And ik ive seen jokes about schizospecs with delusions like. Do have to settle for knowledge in a form of a joke or a horror movie? Or from some noski's bad experience with someone who happens to be schizospec. Actually no. They probably dont even know they have schizophrenia bc NO ONE WITH IT WILL EASILY TELL ANYONE(as others with other diagnoses) but like if you have schizophrenia, there is this fear that comes with it. Like if you tell them they could just stop talking to you because they think its a scary thing and that youre not a safe person to be around.

I just. I just some how i need a platform very high. I want to be the one who talks about this. Im so passionate about it. Its okay if someone else does it to but i want to be there as well. I just dont know how to move up and get popular with people. and i dont wanna make stupid tiktoks informing people. Its just. Sorry i can never take anything on tiktok seriously, and honestly... idk i need to be even higher than tiktok for this i think. I dont know how i will do it...

[lionfloss]

[oatmealaddiction]

I am so sorry to come careening into your asks like this, but that post you reblogged where OP directly conflates conservatism with nazi germany is driving me insane. it’s like, has it occurred to people that painting a whole community as remorselessly evil perhaps has some drawbacks? maybe that history can also tell us about other times having no empathy for ‘the enemy’ has worked out well for all involved?

like. I get that conservatives have done violence and significant harm to our communities. those things are unforgivable. at the same time you cannot simply write off like half of the US for having bad politics. fight against them, fight against fasc alt right shit, just don’t say there’s something innately wrong with those shitheads that is beyond changing. that’s such eugenics bullshit.

There's a good book called "Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil" by Hannah Arendt. Arendt was a Jewish woman who fled Germany and the book was about the trial of Adolf Eichmann, an SS Officer who oversaw the deportation of many Jewish people to Auschwitz. What Arendt found after studying Eichmann was that at the end of the day, in spite of everything, he was just a normal guy. There was nothing off in his psychology, he wasn't mentally unwell, and by all accounts he was a regular citizen who had 'enthusiastically' upheld the system that the Nazi's put in place. Eichmann harbored zero guilt for any of his actions up until his execution, and argued throughout the trial that he bore no personal responsibility for what he'd done. I don't think it's inaccurate to compare conservatism to fascism these days given how many alt-right members are chomping at the bit to install an authoritarian in office, but if all you're going to say is that Republicans got the "Nazi" gene, you've got a misunderstanding about what makes people evil and how they justify evil to themselves. It's not that conservatives are born without the capacity to feel for others or that because they were born bad they became conservative and because you were born good you became liberal. When evil is systematized by those in power and held up as a status quo, doing depraved evil shit becomes ordinary and normal. For example, plenty of Americans still think it's normal and justifiable to enact the death penalty because it's been systematized as part of our criminal justice system. It's the status quo, so therefore it must be upheld no matter how immoral it is.

Frankly, I'm not going to sit here and try to defend conservative beliefs at a time when the Supreme Court is out here just chipping away at everyone's civil rights and white supremacists are breaking into the capital. I don't particularly feel bad writing off the people who continue to vote for and empower fascists. How do you empathize with someone who thinks you're a child predator or that you shouldn't have bodily autonomy? How do you keep your heart open to people advocating that teachers be shot for using someone's correct pronouns? Personally I think galvanizing more liberals into using their vote strategically and engaging in political action will have faster positive action than trying to win over the group who's dictated by bigotry. That said, it's important to understand that these views have been baked into America before the Pilgrims even got here. These ideas didn't pop up over night because an evil person invented them, they've been present for thousands and thousands of years. The conservative party acts the way they do because transphobia and misogyny and racism are normal aspects of American culture that have been systematized into our government and our society, Conservatives believe that because those things are normal, therefore they are just. So I take issue with the idea that there's something inherent in their brains or psychology that turned them evil, and that liberals are immune to this problem. Liberals will uphold the status quo too, albeit with different lingo. Plenty of liberals engage in True Crime podcasts where they celebrate when the police infringe on civil liberties in order to catch a serial killer. "No ethical consumption under capitalism" is often used as a blanket excuse to ignore unfair labor practices. The Queer community loves to accuse it's own of toxicity and predation just as much as the conservatives do. During the Heard v. Depp defamation trial, tons of liberals rejoiced at the way the legal system was used to silence a DV survivor and were happy to support suing a woman for talking about abuse. A lot of the time the people saying things like this, do not think of themselves as doing anything wrong. Evil is boring, and it's normal, and oftentimes those who act immorally do so without a single ping of their conscious. Thinking that conservatives were born with abusive personalities is the exact thinking people had about Nazi's in the wake of World War II. Americans assumed that there was something fundamentally sick and broken in the Nazi psychology, when in actuality it wasn't that different from the institutionalized segregation and systematized eugenics America itself had going on at the time. Being a Nazi was super normal in Nazi Germany just like being a racist was super normal in America. If you tell yourself that there's something fundamentally abnormal and inhuman in the actions of your enemies, you miss the wider picture of the systems they're part of. Worse, you're telling yourself that you could never be like that, that you could never do what they did, rather than examine the ways you're already complicit in abusive systems. Bigotry and abuse and apathy towards injustice are all human traits, and buddy we're all human.

tl,dr: Conservative politics aren't evil people politics, they're ubiquitous and we probably all hold them to some extent. So do your due diligence.