#space claiming

[real-did]

How do people deal with singlets telling them they're lucky to have a system? I'm sick of hearing it from every lonely singlet, they don't care that we're suffering, they don't even notice that we are. They just think that we're a bunch of people hanging out together in one body and it's fun. I don't know how to drill it into their heads that we're in pain, we can't even get help right now. Sorry for the rant I'm just extremely frustrated right now...

I feel you, ugh. It would be sweet if it was just “another you” that could take over while you’re at work or doing something boring, but that’s not at all how it is. It’s a disorder, it’s not a fun escape or constant inner friendship. 

You can try explaining it to others like this, and emphasizing that alters split from trauma and that you can’t always communicate or get along with them. You could also try just... telling people to stop talking about it. If the way your friends talk about your disorder makes you uncomfortable, you can absolutely request they not talk about it. 

You’re not alone in this, I’m sorry you’re feeling bad. Please be safe- it’ll get better.

[real-did]

i saw a did system say "don't follow if you have any type of osdd and call yourself a system" and i'm?? really confused????

That’s actually pretty shitty. I hope it comes from their not knowing about the nature of OSDD-1, but individuals with OSDD-1 are welcome to call themselves systems. They have systems, the disorder includes alters, I don’t see the problem. 

Perhaps they said this after having bad experiences with people with OSDD, but that’s still a shitty thing to say and invalidates the nature of OSDD. 

[real-did]

i'm confused. maybe it's brain fog. but i thought osdd systems were median systems? i've dealt with a did system who policed osdd systems before and i feel like that was one of the things they said. and also that "alter" is did-exclusive, which is why i use "headmate". i'm new to being open on all this so i'm still learning.

Median system is (as far as I know) only used to describe BPD/other PD “systems,” which are essentially just personified moods and not alters at all. Some people who actually have DID/OSDD-1 may believe they have a median system and not DID/OSDD, but this is incorrect and prevents them from treating what they actually have. 

I’m not every person with DID but I have no problem with OSDD systems using “alter,” “fronting,” etc. Those are generally words for dissociative systems and those with OSDD-1a/b are just as valid as those with DID! I do have issues with “median systems” though- that’s not cool and hurts people with PDs and DDs alike. 

(also, if any OSDD systems call themselves median systems, I apologize. I’ve only ever heard that used for “BPD systems”)

[real-did]

what do you think about tulpas/thoughtforms? im personally against them when theyre presented as "alters", but on the other hand.. if ppl want to do spirit/energy work that way i can't really judge them? idk

Nothing about someone’s religion should cause them impairment in functioning or be classified as a “symptom.” It’s not at all the same thing as an alter or DID and if it makes someone’s mental health worse, it’s their responsibility to stop the practice. 

So if everyone has a clear understanding that it’s not even kind of the same thing, and that no one is going to shit on trauma survivors (or invalidate our experiences, or say that we invented alters on purpose, or use the language we use for our experiences, etc), then to each his own! Everyone has the right to their own spiritual experiences! I’m sure that everyone who has both DID and these kinds of spiritual experiences would agree that it’s not at all the same thing. 

[remade213895689231652]

hey if you’re following me and you identify as a system without trauma, without did/osdd, a kin system, or an endogenic then please unfollow me. my blog is not a safe place for you guys, i’m sorry. what you’re doing is incredibly offensive and actually called malingering. if you’ve ever spoken to a psychiatrist you would know that it’s literally impossible to be a “natural” system. do yourself a favor and unfollow or softblock me.

[real-did]

reminder that dissociation is a symptom of mental illness, c-PTSD/PTSD, or drugs/medical issues. if experienced separate of any of these, is likely just zoning out and not a symptom. mild dissociation experienced separately of this is to minimize boredom or conflict, and i’d love if those who experienced non-invasive dissociation that does not keep them from everyday activities not label something as a symptom when it is not

[real-did]

our trauma is not your edgy plot, its not a joke, and this disorder isnt fun. get a new fucking plot device.

[real-did]

This just in

people with DID are all around you! They exist! your friend, classmate, cashier, anyone could have DID! we're not a myth and we're not your fucking plot device!