Tiramisu – When did you realize you were asexual? Oh, wow, finding out I was asexual was a long and winding road. I've always known I wasn't made the same way as other people, ever since I was a teenager, but I thought there was just something wrong with me. For the longest time, I didn't actually know asexuality was a real sexuality. I'd heard the term, but thought it was a joke, or something, I guess. Then, I don't know, six years ago, I was desperately researching basically all known sexualities to see if there was somewhere I fit in. Sadly, the description I found of asexuality back then didn't fit me (describing a complete lack of libido, basically), and nothing else did, either, so I gave up for a couple of years more. Then I started lurking on tumblr (and later joined), and almost immediately saw an explanation of demisexuality, and at first, I thought this was it, because it was pretty close, y'know? And then, over a couple of months, I learned more about asexuality, and learned of the term "squish", which was much more accurate for the things I'd originally thought were crushes. And slowly, I went through my very paltry romantic history and my feelings, and kind of got over that knee-jerk fear I had for being asexual, and knowing I'd never be attracted to someone. Because demisexuality felt safer at first, to me at least, thinking that maybe someday I could find someone. It took a while for me to get over that very ingrained feeling of "You Need A Significant Other. You Need Romance And Sex To Be Happy".
TL;DR, I finally settled in my identity pretty much exactly two years ago, I think? Like, summer/fall 2012.
Better than sex cake – What’s your favourite better-than-sex activity? Oooh, that's a tough one. I'm tempted to say reading, because I love the excitement of discovering new stories - and rediscovering old loved ones - but I think I'm gonna have to go with singing, actually. I literally cannot live without singing, and few things make me happier than getting really into the emotions of a particular song. It's the best way to cheer myself up, or get my mind off of things - or even ease symptoms of migraines or car sickness.