How do i know I'm not just being lazy? I don't want to do my work, I'm failing, and i don't care to get better. I know i should try, try to make myself feel better and do better, but i don't want to. I want to do nothing. I don't even like drawing as much as before, and it was my passion. I'm not depressed, so i don't know what's wrong. I'm confused. Tag as "Star-Student" Please...
Hi love!
I don’t really know how to tell you what makes lazy person lazy… because a lot of it is similar to those who suffer depression and find little to no motivation to do things in their daily life. I don’t think we should belittle those problems to something as simple as “lazy.” How long has this been going on? I know that anxiety can cause this feeling of lack of motivation. Perhaps you lost your motivation to do things because you lost your faith in your abilities to do them; perhaps you’re afraid of what the future may hold and what people may think of you; perhaps you’re too stressed over something that’s taking its toll on your body and psyche. There are so many different explanations for this that it cannot e just simple as saying “lazy or not lazy,” you know?
For the time being, try the following and see if it helps
Force yourself to do something. Make a goal for yourself and make yourself do it. Read one hundred pages today. Finish the essay that was assigned two weeks ago. Go to class. Do the dishes. Put away the laundry. Make a goal and finish it. If you force yourself to do something, it’ll help you learn to become more productive and perhaps even start to make you want to do it. I don’t really know how to explain it but forcing myself to do something makes me feel good because I accomplish it, you know? Like wow I actually did laundry today!
Reward. You did that laundry? That’s good! Reward yourself with something nice! Watch an episode of something. I do this for myself when it comes to studying. I let myself take a 5 minutes break for every half hour I study and get some tea or hot chocolate. I allow myself to sit down, watch some tv or listen to music, and relax before I dive back into work. You can also reward yourself with something big! I reward myself when I get good grades. Every semester if I make As I let myself have a shopping trip. I do have a budget, being a poor college student and all, but I let myself buy a new shirt or go to dinner with friends, etc.
Healthy diet. Eating healthy can help you release some of the tension you’re putting on yourself. Consuming a lot of caffeine can cause you to become hypervigilant and increase your anxiety so try to cut out caffeine and alcohol. If you eat a lot of fatty acids, it hinders your metabolic rate and cause a decrease in energy, which can make you feel like you’re lazy and it contributes to the feeling of energy loss. So try and maintain a balanced, healthy diet.
For those times when you can’t seem to regain motivation, here are some tips to send you in the right direction:
1. Lay out your goals and work towards them.
Make sure you’re working toward a goal-oriented activity everyday, preferably during the part of the day that you’re the most productive. Whatever your goal, keep it front and center, written out in front of you for those times when all you want to do is curl up in a blanket and fall asleep.
2. Stick to a routine.
When you’re motivated, you hardly need a routine, but it’s this daily schedule that helps you the most when you can’t seem to get anything done. Wake up at the same time everyday and go to bed at the same time. You can hold on to routine when your emotions try and convince you otherwise.
3. Work against lethargy and workout anyway.
Yoga, meditation, and working out all help you come out of a slump, but when you lack motivation, it’s the last thing you want to do. Have the will to do it anyway and it will help you rediscover why you love your life.
4. Think positive.
When you’re not motivated you tend to think that everything in your life is going wrong, when in reality you’re just unmotivated and feeling guilty about it. Keep things in perspective, you’re not ineffective, you just don’t feel like working today.
5. Find inspiration.
We talked about pinpointing your goals, now take a look at those around you that can help you fulfill them. Look at people that are already doing what you want to do and contact them for a chat. Read some inspirational books or watch videos.
6. Start small.
Be motivated toward your goal, but at the same time, realize that there are steps to reach your goals and they don’t just happen over night. Decide what you want to do and take one step at a time to get there.
7. It’s hard for a reason.
Nothing worth doing is easy, so realize that it may be difficult to reach your goals, but the end success is worth it.
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Lots of love,
Kelly
