The fearmongering around medical transition for transmascs will never not be upsetting to me.
âyouâre gonna look ugly as a manâ âbut youâre such a pretty girl, donât change thatâ Wrong. You will look different after T, but you will look happy. You will probably grow hair and gain weight and look pretty different, and none of that is bad or makes you less desirable. You are going to look like you and thatâs all that matters.
âT makes you angryâ âyouâre gonna be a scary man i wonât feel safe around youâ Wrong. Testosterone does not âmakeâ you angry. Messing with your hormones will mess with your emotions for sure, but you will not immediately become some scary predator when you start T. Being a man/masculine does not make you a threat, a predator, or inherently angry. Thatâs radfem shit.
âbottom growth is grossâ âno one will want you with bottom growthâ Wrong. Bottom growth is cool and a LOT of guys end up loving theirs a lot more than they thought they would. For a lot of people it is a desirable trait, there are people who find bottom growth hot and attractive. And! If youâre sure you donât want it thereâs things you can do to work around that, just talk to your provider.
âbottom surgery is super painful and not worth itâ First off, call it phalloplasty, because thatâs what youâre talking about. Second, yes itâs painful, itâs surgery. There are risks to it and complications can happen, but thatâs true of any surgery. Phallo might not be for you, but it is life saving care for other folks. It is beautiful and should be talked about as life saving care and not as some afterthought thing that no one actually does.
Being transmasculine is a beautiful thing. Transitioning medically is not something every trans person wants, but if you notice yourself holding back for the reasons iâve listed above (or similar) maybe reconsider.
