In the current situation
Last year my wonderful Fiance FINALLY got divorced from his wicked witch of an ex wife the Chemical Queen. The down side to that though is that he had to willing sign away his parental rights just to get divorced. She refused to sign any divorce paperwork that gave him joint custody of the children. Her reasons were simple, she needed his child support payments to be substantial in order for her to live comfortably while not working and going to school. So in order to just get the damn divorce over with he made the heart retching decision to give away his physical custody. However in the divorce he was granted joint LEGAL custody of the little ones, for those who don’t know that means he HAS to be involved in the major decision making for the children; medical, educational, her current address and so on.
All was going semi well until she started throwing around threats of taking the children from him if he didn't do what SHE wanted him to do (that rant is for a different post). Which leads to the present situation of yesterday!
Yesterday marked the first of many court hearings my almost husband has to go through to regain his joint physical custody of his two beautiful children, *Frankie (girl,age 8) and *Chase (boy, age 5). Of course the focus of the motion was to grant week on week off parenting time, we thought that we had it in the bag before we even showed up to the court house. Little did we know that the judge we had doesn’t EVER read anything presented to him so we got blindsided by the denial of joint parenting time, stating that it is a modification of custody with in less than a year of divorce, ridiculous I know right!?!?!? Anyway, even with this set back, the wonderfully loving father I am planning to marry got the win in a small way. He was granted two whole weeks extra in the summer to have his kids!! Totally 28 uninterrupted overnights!!
Doting Father: 1 vs. Chemical Queen:0
However, we must go through this stressful process again to revisit gaining the next step up the ladder, week on/week off in the summer time. Which his Lawyer; Shark McGhee, said would lead us to a third hearing next year to hopefully show the judge that the kids LOVE being with their father on a week on/week off basis to then gain the ultimate goal… joint physical custody!
But it is just a matter of time before Chemical Queen fucks up and does or says something stupid on a recorded line (which we are told is in fact okay to use in court, even if they didn’t know they were being recorded, as long as Doting father and Chemical queen are both on the recoding its AOKAY!) Plus in a year or so Frankie will be able to tell the courts what she wants and from what she tells Doting Father and myself she wants equal time with both Chemical queen and us! Such a shame that we still live in a world where the mother is the primary parent automatically and the father still gets the boot!
*Of course these are false names to protect my lovely darlings from any back lash if their mother dearest, AKA Chemical Queen, ever finds this blog and decodes its mine.