Im high key over the "cant talk to women" excuse for lesbians. I'm super shy and awkward, but you know what really helps?
SEEING WOMEN AS PEOPLE. Take into account she could be just as nervous as you but really good at hiding it.
Literally just listen. Shit, some people like shyness if you're interesting to talk to, at least.
Talk, don't start building a life with her in your head before you learn her name and hobbies š¤¦š¾āāļø.
The excuse is understandable for teens, maybe. But still holding this opinion like women are some unattainable prize to win, well into your 20s and 30s is setting you up for failure.