sunsetdesire: i am just like you when it comes to self-aftercare so I've been making an effort to be gentler with myself. since i only recently started, i can only give you a few tips but i hope they help! and as always, feel free to dm me, bun. anyway, the first thing that I've been making myself do is wait until my heart rate has slowed before jumping up to do anything, ie clean up. clean up can wait. i wouldn't expect my sub get up immediately, you shouldn't expect yourself to either. relax and give yourself time, clean up can happen in a little bit. drink water, approximately a full glass over the next few minutes after you sit up again. check in with your body while you drink and relax any tense muscles you can. i think one of the most important things is to really let yourself feel those aftershocks and feel the natural chemicals you get from getting off. give yourself time to feel the benefits of your efforts, the endorphins from exertion and cumming, you earned those feelings. i clean myself off whenever i feel steady enough to and after after i'm mostly cleaned up i get a snack if i feel the need and put on a comfort video while laying on top of a good blanket. it's the simple things, it doesn't have to be complicated. just comforting and warm and kind to yourself. that's the important thing, bun, you deserve that. anyway have a good niiiight hope that helps at all. BE NICE TO YOURSELF. YOU'RE LOVELY. xxx
This is really so incredibly helpful 😭 I give myself like two seconds before getting up and just cleaning off and essentially ignoring what I just did, so any time I’ve ever done anything with someone else I’m use to just getting dressed and acting like nothing happened :,,)