Alright. It's come to my attention that I really did not understand the shared idea of this community at first. I'm going to state my own take.
This community is completely unreliant on any members. There is no hierarchy. Hosting an event every year does not prioritize somebody on an individual level.
Every person, regardless of who you are, needs to listen to consent. No ifs ands or buts. If somebody says no, you STOP!
I don't give a shit why they set a boundary. Do you jump fences when you see them? Do you break into houses? NO. The walls and fences are boundaries. You recognize that and do not cross that line. Treat people the same.
Its not hard. It's so unimaginably easy that you've done it your entire life without even noticing, ever since birth. If you whine when someone sets a personal boundary, you are not a serious person and you should not be taken seriously. You are not an adult. Toddlers do that. You are an infant child.
This isn't drama. This isn't wrecking the community. This is life. This is a victim of an irresponsible person's blatant disregard for safety, comfort, and enjoyability sharing her story. This is not an accident either. This is someone who put their own self first and did not so much as think of the other party. Too eager. Too uncaring.
Hearts out to @tickleharmony for what she's been through. Mad props for speaking up about it. I appreciate you bringing this to light so that it can be solved, instead of just sweeping it under the rug.
Lets try to make a change so this never happens again.
This is my personal opinion. If you agree or disagree is up to you, but look at the evidence and inform yourself before you make up your mind.
