t8h replied to your post “@aberrantcadenza kitty you made a lot of good points and i like them...”
yeah absolutely. i've seen people call for ooc communication and then not even do it. it gets to the point where i actually feel weird and uncomfortable trying to oocly talk things out because so many people don't seem to like practicing it. we have a weird environment where ooc discussion is, in a way, encouraged, but nobody does it or they don't do it until the thing that should've been discussed
i feel this a lot and i think that’s why im so apt that like 4 posts into some kind of strife i 1) drop the thing ooc if im having a Bad Brain Day (tm) or 2) go out of my way to ooc come to that person and b like “hey how are you doing is this okay, lmk when its too much”
i think that even if its a short and sweet confirmation of “yeah this is great i love this tension” is so good and helps with, honestly, fostering and solidifying the ic=/=ooc mentality.
and if that sparks something of a conversation of having that go forward as a kind of developmental thing ic then hot diggity cool.