#takingsides

[ahmerinam]

Taking sides - Four windows part 2 by A Different Perspective https://flic.kr/p/2oR13nm

[ahmerinam]

Taking sides - Four windows part 1 by A Different Perspective Both in Wellington. 2011 and 2013. https://flic.kr/p/2oQYZMc

[ahmerinam]

Taking sides - Step by A Different Perspective This time, both in Bali. A volleyball court on the left, and temple steps on the right. https://flic.kr/p/2oNP8Fx

[ahmerinam]

Taking sides - Chess by A Different Perspective https://flic.kr/p/2oNWkUM

[ahmerinam]

Taking sides - Fan by A Different Perspective https://flic.kr/p/2oN7guW

[legomars]

Not About Gas Prices

As we waited in a gas line at 7am--a line that I've never seen formed at my regular station before this day--I was feeling all kinds of feel...

[tonydavy]

#QuoteOfTheDay #QOTD #HipHopQuotes #Family #Feud #TakingSides #NeverGiveIn #KushAndWizdom #KendrickLamar

[thecpdiary]

Children taking sides

Childhood experiences often show that adult relationships aren’t always happy ones and that even if children don’t see problems from the outset, it doesn’t mean those problems don’t exist.

Children are very adept at picking up friction, even if on the surface those problems are not completely obvious. Children may not say, but they see more than we give them credit for and know more than they say. Children are good at hiding what they feel and what they see.

Sometimes relationships become complicated as do the issues that come with them. On the part of the parents, they are masters at hiding what they don’t want children to see, but it’s even more difficult for the child who becomes torn between the parents.

When problems in adult relationships do exist,  how easy it would for a child to take sides, but in doing so they may be left with another conflict in the form of guilt, particularly if they come to favour one parent over the other. As a consequence children may go on to blame both parents as a result of the guilt they’re made to feel; or may instead simply choose to sit on the fence, because it seems easier.

Although sitting on the fence may seem the easier option, in the longer term it can bring about other issues in the form of control, when that child decides to hand over the reigns for a quiet life. 

Complicated relationships or not, it’s up to us as parents to make sure we mediate so that children aren’t involved and we do what’s right.

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