#tc advice

[caughtinacherrylove]

i think i have a tc but im not sure if its romantic or platonic. i would never date my teacher even after graduation because it would just feel weird but then when i think about my tc i know that in a different situation if we were the same age i would totally catch romantic feelings. its kind of a weird situation but i was hoping you had advice

hey

I've been in this situation exactly. I never really wanted to date my teacher, and I struggled to see him in a real romantic sense (plus he has a life that I would never want to get in the way of) I did think sometimes "hey if we were in school at the same time in some universe we'd probably be a thing at some point" and with the way he acted I wonder sometimes if he's ever thought that too..

In life I think for some people it's like that you know, I think we can make special connections with certain people, but we both mutually know we can't act it on it either for our own sake or other's

Otherwise, I think a great friendship opportunity can arise from this (in my case and others with stories similar to yours it certainly has) as long as both parties keep everything platonic

[caughtinacherrylove]

i really hate having a tc. the feeling of having a new crush is so thrilling but when it just happens to be your teacher it’s so unfulfilling. at least with crushes on my peers i can talk to them on a personal and casual level.

Anon,

You're entirely right, it absolutely sucks, although I don't much relate to the 'crush' aspect myself, having any sort of attachment to a teacher can leave you feeling pretty ostracized. Having a TC definetly motivated me more since I wanted to show off and make him proud (as if he noticed lmao), but it worked and it helped me to get through high school. Though I think building a relationship with your teacher is possible, it most likely won't cross that friendly-platonic line, which is fine for some folk, and still isn't a bad place to be in if you truly admire and want to learn from this person. I would certainly never promote or advise one get a TC or even obsess over a person who couldn't ever really be theirs, but for those already in the deep, my advice would try to make the best of it. It absolutely is soul-crushing when they don't give you the amount of attention you want, and that part is the worst side of the spectrum, but every clouds got a silver lining, keeping my tc in mind still helps me succeed today because I want to go into a similar career, and depending how close y'all get, you could ask them for advice.

Whatever you do, you can't suppress how you feel, because that'll simply make it last longer. Eventually, you're gonna wake up without the heavy feeling in your chest, and the tidal wave of past emotions. Every love teaches you something, even the unrequited ones.

[cupoftc]

I am in love with one of my teachers and my best friend likes him too but he always gives her more attention. I feel that no matter what I do he'll never appreciate me the way he appreciates her. I feel so awful and worthless. What can I do?

Just talk to him!! My advice for situations like this is to learn about his interests and talk about those with me. Being playful is also important, so some very very light banter can be fun and make him love talking to you more than any other student. Just give that a shot :) hope this helps!! xx