Safety
Safety is something that everyone should be concerned with. Those who have been in this lifestyle for a bit know what I am talking about, and it is discussed on the links that I have posted.
For those that are new to the lifestyle, this should be first and foremost in your thoughts at all times. DO NOT just decide to meet anyone who says they want to be your Dom. This is bad and a HUGE WARNING BELL should be going off in your head.
The one biggest piece of advice I can give is to do a background check on a potential Dom. It’s not hard….. Make sure that this is the kind of person you TRUST to hand over control of yourself to. Remember, they can say all the nice hot, flowery things that you want to hear. You don’t want to get involved with a psychopath. Check out what you blog, the sites they go. This is your life we are discussing. Taking a little extra time to do a little checking will not hurt you and you aren’t invading their privacy. The web is public… use it to your advantage.
Daddy took his time with me, just about a month before I even agreed to a face-to-face meeting. He is the one who suggested a public meeting, and this should ALWAYS happen first. NEVER NEVER NEVER agree to a private meeting first. Always where there is a lot of people, and you feel totally safe…….
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I don’t remember where I read it, but the advice was ~ if you don’t trust a potential dom enough to give him your credit card information then you don’t trust him enough to put your life in his hands…. that stuck.
Without playing twenty questions, I had enough information to run a background check within a month ~ and we were simply friends at that point.
Take it slowly, there should be no rush. If you’re feeling pressured, assume there will be pressure regarding your personal limits. The following are things I’ve asked friends to do when meeting someone they met online. Honestly, I’d expect a perspective dom to suggest a list of things for reassurance, but seldomly hear of it happening…
When meeting, make sure to give your date information to a friend. Include where you are meeting, the time, his/her name, phone number, vehicle information… (& anticipate that they have researched you as well). Preferably a real-world friend and an online one as well.
Be early and arrive from a direction other than one that leads to your home/neighborhood.
Message your friend on arrival.
Take a selfie with your date and send it to the friend that has his/her information.
Tell him/her you are to message your friend when you are leaving AND after you are inside your home. He/she will understand if they care about you.
If at any time you become uncomfortable, leave. Tell him/her you are going to the restroom. Tell a staff member it’s a first date giving you the creeps and ask that they tell him/her you left after giving you five-ten minutes to leave the parking lot. Let your friend know what happened, that you left and also let them know when you get safely inside your home.
