#the answer btw

[idylls-of-the-divine-romance]

Me, flirting: so... do you want to plant gardens in the city of our oppressors with me???

[ask-synergy]

@matchymatchysupernatchy

[largishcat]

Laci Green’s burnout is a lesson to the rest of us who are representing social justice causes that include marginalized groups we are not part of. If it’s about you, you will burn out. You will eventually become resentful. Your path will not be a deeply meaningful one of empathy, care, and constantly deepening understanding. Oh, you may learn a lot about social justice issues. You will learn talking points that may get you better liked — because after all, that’s your goal. You may have a large following. But there will be something rotting away in you that comes from your chase of a validation, an end point, that you will increasingly feel is unjustly denied to you the more you do to approach it. Because you will never know everything, and when given the choice to see a proposed adjustment as a learning opportunity or a cruel reminder of how people view your inadequacy, you will see it as people saying that you personally are an inadequate person. Because you will (like every human) always make mistakes that will either be opportunities to empathize and love with more understanding, or opportunities to resent, and you will always choose resentment.  Because you’ll think that the only way to help others is to be the perfect social justice advocate who pleases everyone at all times — and that you aren’t successful until you’ve done that — and fail to see that social justice is most meaningful and valuable in the moments we make mistakes and thus learn from each other, deepen our love for each other, and gain a deeper understanding and sense of empathy when we find that we were wrong. In short, you will leave social justice causes — or be thoroughly miserable in them — like Laci Green if you forget the most important rule when it comes to ensuring social justice for other members of marginalized groups: This isn’t about you. It’s about continuously understanding and empathizing with the people you’re trying to help.

This Is Not About Laci Green by Martin Hughes

[eikae]

dating a gamer nerd (as a gamer nerd yourself) seems all fun and games until you have to have a sit-down discussion about how to stop pissing each other off so much when you play baldurs gate together

[thelaughingvulture]

“Hey I’ve been gone for too long remind me of the local laws regarding collecting roadkill for skull processing”, a totally normal conversation to have in this house.