#the-2nd-one

[fatterbiggersofter]

Feedee who's not necessarily in denial about their weight, but rather the vastness of their appetite to the point of forgetting how normal or "fit" people eat.

They see how little of a portion their feeder/partner eats. They expected one bowl, sure, but... that's a tiny amount, surely?

They ask them if everything's okay. They couldn't imagine ever eating a portion that small and being satisfied.

"You know you're gorgeous, right? You don't need to starve yourself just for contrast or whatever. I love you for you. You should eat properly."

And their feeder/partner looks down at their own plate, which is actually a little fuller than normal and goes, "Huh?"

"That portion. It's tiny. Are you okay? You not feeling well or something?"

"Baby, this is a big portion."

"No it's not."

"Yes it... wait a minute. You don't know what a normal portion size is anymore, do you? You're so far gone, you can't imagine eating this much. Oh my god."

(Etc)

Like idk if it's enough for an actual text post but it's a scenario I play around with in my head a bit lol. What do you think?

I love this coming from a perspective of care and worry from the fatter partner. Not teasing their thin partner about barely eating because they take so much of the shared meals, but their focus literally so zeroed in on their own food, their own portions, and how even these huge helpings barely leave them sated that seeing the pitiful size of a normal serving has them wondering how literally anyone could manage on such little food.

The fatter partner eating all the time and slowly realizing they're rarely so completely full to self-describe as 'not hungry'. The amount of time they spend thinking about food, waiting for their next really filling meal expanding as they grow. While their partner's portions and diet remains pretty constant.

I think focusing on the moment of realization like that is fun. The feedee realizing that they've been given essentially a serving platter compared to the miniscule size of a normal plate. Maybe the feeder likes the contrast, or maybe it's just the natural progression of things as the feedee takes up more of the bed, and the couch, and the table with their meals.

Fun scene!

[fatterbiggersofter]

Also out of curiosity is there a term for a Feedism role reversal? Like an actual term? It's been plaguing me ever since I wrote about the two friends where one lost weight and fed the other vicariously so he gained what the other lost and I just– I don't– Augh! It's such a fun concept and if there isn’t an actual term for it then there should be.

Weight swap? Role reversal? Weight switch? Reversed weight? Idk man.

So I don't know at all who put this site together, but there's a huge list of feedism tropes here:

https://wgtropes.miraheze.org/wiki/Category:Tropes

I don't love a lot of the exact terms they choose, but I find the taxonomy helpful when trying to differentiate the core of one story from another.

They might classify what you're talking about as a Yin-Yang Diet, or the Feeder-Feedee Flip more generally. Maybe with a hint of Splash Damage to get the unintentional bit?

People on reddit talk about the "feeder to feedee pipeline", but I like having some terminology to throw around. Curious if you'd pick a different one, let me know!

[fatterbiggersofter]

I know you normally write about male gains so maybe this isn't up your street but imagine a celebrity who's considered a sex icon. Her fanbase is primarily men crushing / thirsting over her, she drives them crazy.

Her nudes leak for whatever reason, as is a big problem irl with female celebrities. She takes an absence from the spotlight, she says, to focus on "herself".

Word gets out to only her die-hard fans that she's now doing adult movies.

Imagine a guy, a fan of hers, tuning in obsessively. He keeps up to date but... she's putting on a bit of weight. He figures now that she's not in the spotlight anymore she doesn't need to worry as much. Maybe the leaked nudes stressed her out.

It's definitely her. Not an impersonator. She keeps gaining weight.

She makes an appearance in articles again because of paparazzi but it's just a scandal of her noticeable gain. That confirms it for him that it is her.

She keeps gaining.

To him, her beauty doesn't wane, which scares him. Her breasts and hips get bigger, her thighs widen, her fingers and feet chub up, her belly starts to pool. Most of the time, she's spilling out of the outfits the porn directors have appointed her. Her roles change from the girl next door to the apartment next door to the role of a MILF. It's a gradual change. The mom jeans, 90s-ish updo, and copious cleavage in overtaxed leopard print still leaves him breathless. In that one, something new happens though that he doesn't pay much mind to at the time:

She presses the guy's hand to her naked stomach as she's riding him and says, "It's tough being a mom. Look how big they made me."

A day or two later he checks her online. No kids. He understands it's just for the plot, that it wouldn't have been real, but he had to check. Why put attention on how big she is? The title does say "Fat Curvy MILF"... Hm.

That isn't her biggest. She keeps going. Going. Going. She goes from "curvy" to just fat. She's still curvy in a way, but it's not what you'd think when you see her.

She reaches the point of barely walking in her movies. Her arms are thick and jigging, her chest is massive, her belly too. She's pink-cheeked and panting like she's having sex even before the event happens. Every step to this point that he's witness he's been no less attracted to.

If anything, he's harder than he's ever been. He can't get off without thinking of her. He wants to feed her. He wants to feel her all over. Feel the softness of her fat in a discovering way, he's never felt anyone like her before.

The guy in the porn (different guys – sure – but the guy of the hour) becomes a feeder. He can barely breathe as he watches it. He's hand feeding her cake and she's moaning like it's pleasuring her.

He can pretend the guy is him.

Thoughts?

This is neat! You're really good at making me think about new slants on some of the more common dynamics/tropes. I like the unintentional slide into the FA/feeder role, it's so often the gaining/feedee person who can't help themselves from sinking further and further into the kink. I can totally see a guy going from mystified by her change to gripping tighter and tighter to his crush on her as she changes and subsumes everything about herself physically that used to be attractive to him and core to her persona.

Can't emphasize enough how brilliant that is to have the "decline" be into fat attraction in general. It makes sense; it's taboo, it's confusing for him, he slowly admits he's not just gawking at her change, he's relishing watching her get bigger and thinking it's weird, but he won't be so rapt by her if she gets any "worse". But he's wrong, and every subsequent time he sees her, she's fatter and he's still into her. I especially love the detail about him reading something sexual into her baseline panting once she's getting to that size, really nailed that type of subconscious eroticism developing for him. Great idea as always!

Also re:me normally writing about male gains...

So funny because I read that bit of your ask and I was like... huh, no I don't? So I went back to my 2026 stories directory post and it's entirely BHM/BHM/SSBHM or POV/genderless stuff written this year and I'm just like huh. I absolutely did not clock that I'm in such a Big Guy era at the moment lol, but I love writing about anyone getting fatter of any gender :)

I think 1) my perception is that there's a lot less male gaining writing out there and I did at some point I did intentionally try to lean into writing more about guys gaining to explore new premises, 2) I often have Complicated Feelings about being a guy in this online space and I may be overcompensating out of concern that what I write could in even the smallest way contribute to/mirror some of the behaviors/dynamics that make this community difficult (for women) to participate in, and 3) big guys are hot!

Thanks for the ask and the self-reflection! haha

[fatterbiggersofter]

Switching up on the feedist throuple thing (hi, it was me), I like the opposite too.

One feeder, overwhelmed but enamored ny two feedees. The feeder holds out something to feed them but has to sort of keep it center to appear impartial, then the two fight over it instead of taking it in turns.

Their fighting turns to making out when the proffered treat leaves the feeder's hand, caught by one of the feedees. The making out is a show of their feeder but also to try to snatch the treat back.

They eat the same time and are fed the same amount, but maybe one of them snacks a lot more than the other. Maybe that just brings forward an incentive for the other to catch up...

hey! glad it was you! :)

this is a really neat setup and I feel like it plays into the tension/competition angle on the two feeder/one feedee angle.

I like this from a corruption perspective, too, where one feedee doubles down on being increasingly submissive to try and differentiate/win the feeder's attention, prompting the other to copy and surpass in whatever way they perceive the feeder wants them to progress. especially in a sense where the feedees wind up outpacing the feeder's own expectations(/preference) for their size and habits. sometimes you end up with twice the trouble when you've got two greedy gainers trying to outmatch the other.

also I've been thinking a lot about your pet/puppy play feeder idea and I can see some potential overlap in the dynamic you're setting up in either configuration of throuple. I think you're approaching convergence here with the treats/competition/showing off, but I love the idea also of two feeders, both submissive, trying to outdo the other and earn the dom(me) feedee's attention.

throuples are fun to consider! I've only once approached writing something in the poly space once and I had to really have a firm sense of the personalities/dynamics of each person involved to slot the feedist slant in there to feel satisfying. much to consider!

ps I do still have a note in my drafts for MALE IMMOBILITY-INDUCED POPULATION CONTROL so your ideas do 1000% stick with me :)