#theadhdsociety

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(I should be cleaning).

I think of the most freeing things I have learned/ heard recently was

"Neurotypical people do it too"

They forget things !

They make jokes that aren't funny !

They say things that upset others !

They aren't perfect !

I think so often we strive and work SO HARD to overcompensate for our symptoms, we forget that they do it too. (Even if we do it more lol)

So go easy on yourself. You don't need to be perfect.

[the-adhd-society]

This is something i have thought about and have been really feeling lately and thought i would share.

1)STOP TREATING PPL WITH ADHD (and any of nd person) LIKE SHIT BECAUSR THEY THINK AND ACT DIFFERENTLY.

Just accept it. We don't have to conform because it makes you uncomfortable.

I'm just so frustrated and sad when I think about it as it is so apparent how damaging it has been in my own life.

I was laid off due to covid purely for budgetary reasons in NOV. I still haven't found a job (which everyone is struggling with).

But for me what sinks the most is that I FEEL like I won't succeed at any job I look at. I FEEL i am not qualifed or have too much anxiety over it.

Ever since i graduated college i feel like i keep running into glass walls that have been holding me back.

Because these glass walls are the reminders and constant feedback and comments from my 25 some odd years of schooling ( i have two degrees and added in prek).

It takes me DAYS to write a cover letter because for years I was told my writing was not good enough, my grammar was not strong enough. So I have to rely on other ppl tp edit my work. But then my voice is rewritten and reformatted. I struggle to be independent because of I have been told so many times that it is not good enough . but at the same time I am told to trust myself more and just get it out there.

I see so many amazing, wonderful,hard-working, talented, and well deserving people doing the things i could do but the difference is that they were never told for 25 years that they can't. So they are actually doing it and I am running into glass walls. Because even the limited mentors and positive influences in my life have been conditional on me presenting or masking as normal. ***

When you have to mask, you question your own validity. When you have to mask, you question your own worth and question your owm judgement.

So yeah if you are an adhd or nd person feeling like shit or like you are not good enough. You might not be the same as others. But that doesn't mean you aren't just as good.

*** this is not to say that they haven't had their own issues and struggles and nay sayers. But. They have found a way to overcome or compensate for it in a way that i haven't yet lol.

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Just a reminder and this is something if mot the only helpful thing i learned from my.therapist.

You can redirect, reclarify, or reasl questions if you don't understand or if it wasn't amswered.

Some thing also helpful i have picked up in particular when at the doctor is saying " before you go i did have a question/concern that i wanted to bring up"

I found that i would wait for them to ask if i had questions. When they didn't ask i didn't answer amd i didn't get the support that i needed.

Another time a meeting was set up with someone i didn't know to discuss information for an upcoming project. I talked about jow i was uncomfortable because the format was different than i expected so i felt unprepared.

My therapist said that i simply could have restated the format that i wanted. " i don't have specific questions but wanted to have a general conversation about this etc."

As nd and adhd people it feels like we are never able to tale ownership and always assume that we are in the wrong. That's not the case.

[the-adhd-society]

Hi.

DRINK SOME WATER !

Like right now.

Yes. .

It's almost 3am and ask me about my water intake !

Please don't. .

Also please don't ask about my chocolate intake. I had another allergic reaction from stim eating chocolate. I'm fine. Lmfao.

[the-adhd-society]

Hi loves.

This is a reminder for other stress and anxiety prone ppl.

You deserve the right to rest and you deserve the right to do something FUN and ENJOYABLE. Guilt free everyday.

Obviously you mught not have the time to watch a full movie or afford to go buy new clothes.

But you can have your favorite breakfast

Go for a timed walk to feel the sun on ypur skin.

Take a timed thinking break and let your mind wonder.

Brains need breaks too !

I realized this as it's 2am now and I'm late to bed. But i have been stressing and putting pressure on myself all day everyday for over a month and it's been making things worse.

.you need breaks . you need fun.

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Hopefully relatable adhd moment.

I have a graduate certificate that i earned but never actually received because of fines i had to pay. Nbd. I was thinking of calling to get it sent to my house.

I had to think of my student id number. Which i know by heart since i use it for passwords.

I was then sure that it was wrong and tried to think of other id #s.

Including my old lockbox keycode.

The one i use to log into my computer with.

Every

Day.

I couldn't remember the password that unlocks my laptop.

It's unlocked now but for the life of me I drew a blank.

Anyone else have those problems ? Lol.

[the-adhd-society]

Hi all!

Sorry the page has been inactive for a little bit. I am trying to get a new job and have had a lot of interviews and just didn't have energy.

Anyone want to share there interview tips, tricks, and experiences?

For me, it feels like a special type of hell. If i don't write down the questions i will forget them.

I have to maintain eye contact

I have to be brief but not too brief

I have to advocate and promote about myself

I have to edit what i am saying before i say it.

If i don't get this job it's because i forgot to emphasize my experience properly. So I'm kinda sad about that. But we don't know that yet.

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Has anyone else noticed during the pandemic or as you have gotten older that your stims have gotten worse ?

I have a mix of stims and anxiety tics.

But living alone they have gotten a lot worse before i never noticed the stims that much.

Now i am living back at home and i control them more.

But for the most part i didn't consciously tone them down. I had different quieter ones at home.

Which makes it feel like the loud whens were fake or exaggerated ( it happened a lot when i was with my bf and I'd get excited/energy burst).

I have only been diagnosed. With adhd but I'm not sure how much of a crossover with Asd it would be. ( similar behaviors vs undiagnosed asd).

Would love to know your thoughts ?