This post is soo powerful and informative. Most won't read the whole thing. #MacGemz: Reposted from @iamdevale The most commonly asked question by men aspiring to be in a healthy monogamous relationship is HOW DO YOU KEEP THE FLAME BURNING? HERS AND YOURS! Women often believe that men are only concerned about losing interest in one woman, but the truth is men are even more concerned about that woman losing interest in them. Insecurity is like a fire extinguisher to a flame. Women can sense it and will start to become unattracted. I know this because Iāve been there before in my relationship. Then immediately my ego needed to be fed to suppress my insecurity, and the quickest way to do that was by seeking the attention of other women. Then the cycle began because Kay became insecure and we wanted to be together but no flame can survive a trapped environment. I first had to check myself and realize that my insecurities were coming from my past not my present. The way I felt about myself had very little to do with Kay, but there I was projecting my flaws onto her and stifling the very spark that attracted her to me and me to herā self sabotage. Then I found myself asking her to be the solution to a problem I caused and had yet to deal with internally. That was a no win situation for either of us. The truth is there is nothing a man can do to fan the flames of a womanās sexual desires if he is not confident and she does not ignite the spark within herself. She will never be able to be what he wants her to be in the bedroom if she feels imprisoned instead of empowered. So if you want to keep sh*t hot, make sure you are making love to her mind constantly and she feels free in your presenceā because there is nothing more erotic than an empowered women that trusts she can share her sexual fantasies with you. DEAD ASS! #DevalesTruth #TheEllises #DeadAssPodcast #Season4 #ComingThisFall #BestFriends #Lovers #Parents #BusinessPartners #18Years #10Married #MillennialMarriage - #regrann https://www.instagram.com/p/CEMwI-anSmWLBM4p5J4AATkWpW0HcWxXZdXtUo0/?igshid=1b99ys2lqm4py