I'm 17 and came out to my parents last July. I've known I was trans for a few years and am ready to socially transition and want to hear less of the feminine pronouns. Every time my parents use those pronouns it feels like they're using them as weapons against me. They also refuse to hear any talk of buying masculine clothing. What can I possibly do help them realize: Though they're not ready for a son, I'm more than ready to metaphorically step off the shards of ice or at least put on shoes?
I’m going to assume you’ve tried talking to your parents - if not, at least try. Let them know about the pain they’re putting you through when they refuse to let you be yourself.
Are you able to buy your own clothes? If it won’t put you in danger, try going out and getting your own.
Also, build up a support network. Friends, other family members, coworkers, teachers, counsellors/therapists, really anyone who will be supportive of you is a good option. Having these people around you, supporting you and using your name and pronouns, is always a big help. It's good to know people are on your side when your folks refuse to be.