Do As I Do, Not As I Say Children are without debate the greatest gift we could receive from Creation. As expectant parents, the same thought courses through each of us at least once-"oh shit! Am I ready for this?" I could write a chapter or 2 regarding the title to this post, but I'll try and keep this short. My youngest son is having a REALLY hard time in school. He's very behind because of my choices to unschool him while we waited for the school we really wanted him in to have a place for him. It took two years. 4th grade and all F and one D-. Not his fault-my fault. I'll tell you why. I, as the eldest of five, got into a habit starting when my own mother went back to school when I was 11 of not doing my schoolwork. I needed to make sure the house was clean before she came home at 10-11 pm or risk an ass-whooping. Come high school, I was unable to take part in sports to distract myself and make friends and shit just got worse from then on. I love learning. I just wasn't in an environment conducive to studying. Now, as an adult, I'm witnessing myself distracting with phone games, television, "busy work" where I'm not really getting anything done. I've taught my son the same thing. He can't study independently, as it would be like putting me in front of a trigonometry test. We have no baseline to even start guessing. I will leave to work after his snack with instructions for him to "do what you can and I'll help you with the rest when I get home". But he doesn't. He gets on his phone, occulus, or just gets figurines and loses himself in his imagination. Since I'm almost done with "Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself" by Dr. Joe Dispenza, I am learning to objectively and blamelessly observe and vett these behaviours and let me tell you-none of them are making the cut. Do as I DO, my loves. That means getting rid of all numbing phone games, hiding the Occulus, creating a habit of a chunk of time daily where I am right there with Jasper, studying and working right along side him distraction less so I can assist him when he needs it. #drjoedispenza #75hard #thisistwinfalls @resolvelifeagency @xaviercharterschool @__prestonmeyer__ (at Twin Falls, Idaho) https://www.instagram.com/p/Ck0jLvqOTUq/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=