What the RIB is looking for?
Women are complicated beings #Seriously. If no one knew that I’m a women, girl, chick or maturing female adult behind this blog I am & I can #Honestly say women are complicated beings. The big question is why and did GOD know we would be like this?
Let’s go to the beginning shall we. GOD made the Garden of Eden and when He finished He said, “It is good”. He then took sand and formed a man in the ground and He created Adam. Now Adam wasn't lonely or needed someone to be naughty with. Adam was with GOD. He would never be lonely because GOD was always there. I think the reason why Eve was created from Adam’s rib #FYI (Genesis 2:22-23) is because every women posses the rib a guy needs.
“If that’s the case, why are you all so damn complicated?” Well you see I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes women just don’t know what they want. #Seriously we don't. We want to be loved, but not suffocated. To be kept but also have independence. To have a gentleman BUT he must also excite us. To be respected BUT at the same time we want him to know how to take charge. The list really goes on and we really just don’t know what we want when it comes to men. However just because we are indecisive about men doesn't mean it applies in all areas.
I’ll be honest, I can’t give you an exact reason why women are so complicated. I’m a women and I’m complicated and I don’t even know why at times BUT I’d like to think that women should be respected. This is shown through love.
Yes that cliche red heart makes women go crazy. We want love. Why? Well touch your rib. It’s strong BUT tender, firm BUT soft and not to mention it protects the heart and lung from any damage. It’s dynamic and that’s the thing with us women, we are dynamic. We are forever changing. So whether it’s learning and applying the latest trends to our closet or paying excessive amounts for someone else’s hair. We are forever changing and #LikeLegit it’s not a bad thing it’s just something guys don’t really understand.
You see the girl you mack on is not the same one that will be crying and stuffing her face with ice-cream and chocolate when you break her heart. I’m sorry she’s not. The girl you show your game too, will be sexy, fun, interesting and obviously flirt back BUT when she’s your BAE the standards change. Things have now changed. She expects more now. She expects LOVE, YES I said it, she wants the dangerous BUT no longer truly understood word and concept called Love. Why? Because her desire subconsciously is to see if she is your rib.
The next question is, did GOD know we would be like this? Let ME start by saying there are many categories of women. YES like it or not guys we are all NOT the same. We posses the same characteristics BUT act upon them in different ways. By characteristics I mean, we are all complicated, we are romantics, emotional the list goes on BUT we still have categories such as;
-Hopeless romantic
-Independent
-Dependent
-Baby Mama (nowadays...)
-Girl Player
-Major Trust Issues
-”Christian girls” (Till this day I don't know what that means #LikeSeriously) And the most famous one of them all..
-The Gold Digger, YES she’s still around. All of these categories posses 50% of the same traits. Basically how we all behave towards the opposite sex. The rest of it is made up of their own personality, style, likes, dislikes all that jazz.
Now did the creator of the FIRST women know we would be like this? I’m gonna have to go with a rounding YES. GOD’s not dumb He knows how this complicated trait within all of us operates. I’m willing to bet He’s the only one that does.
SO now we know women are complicated and we know GOD knows how complicated women are #PointPlease...
Well if you know all this information why are we still not being treated as princesses of the Most High? Well firstly I think it is because we don’t love ourselves. Women have MAJOR insecurity problems #LikeLegit these things are a whole world on their own. It’s a sad BUT a true fact. We don’t love ourselves and loving yourself is the starting point for everything in life #Legit. We want to be thin because we think it’s in, then thick because it might be the right trick, tall so those clothes can fit from the mall and light because everyone says it’s right.
Insecurities really tear down at a women and it takes A LONG TIME for us to finally be comfortable within our skin. To look in the mirror and say, “I have these blemishes that won’t go away, this tummy that is flat BUT still not 100% right and these long legs that were once used for running and no African ass BUT you know what, I’m happy with all I have” It takes a long time to accept what we have and not contently cry when we see flited beautiful women on Instagram.
LADIES, Accept and Love what you have because it is the LORD who gave it to you.
You see women are a lot of things, A LOT BUT the one thing that is true within all of us is that we deserve to be treated and to act like we all come from the Most High. We deserve to be accepted for our dynamicness (if that’s a word), to be cared and most importantly to be loved. THAT’S why Eve was created from Adam’s rib. Not because he needed a companion, but because Eve was that one thing that he lacked and GOD knew this.
So put aside all the thoughts you have about women or yourself. Women might be complicated BUT at the rib of it all (no pun intended) we all seek love and once we receive it we give it back whole heatedly. YES you might have been hurt by a women, you might call us, “liars, “the same”, crazy and the obvious complicated” but when you find YOUR rib you will say,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.” 1 Corinthians 13:4
That’s what it means to find your rib. All the stereotypical views you hear and have are thrown out the window and what you are left with is Love. It’s what every women is ultimately looking for.