The human brain constantly produces impulses of neural energy, kind of like a mini power plant or inner engine. People differ in the intensity of these impulses. Some have a high "voltage", others - "low". And this generated neural energy (excitation) needs to be spent on some type of activities. This energy can reflect in how "jumpy" or visibly energetic a person is, but not nesessary.
Both Mark and Doyoung have strong power plants within them. However, the way this energy is processed and spent varies significantly. Mark spends his a lot in a direct way - through work (long hours, big load), physical activity (the way his dance is super energised), loud voice and laugh, creativity (contemplating and writing, brainwork). I guess Christianity and faith help him to streamline his path as well, there are deep grooves to run along without unnesessary worry. He wants k-pop to be known around the world, the horizon is wide and there are many more mountains ahead, so he has no problem how to channel his energy. He juggles three teams, heh.
Doyoung is not a physical type, spending neural energy through pure physical activity (running, dancing) doesn't work for him. It tires him and the cells in the brain and muscles, eats up sugars, of course, but doesn't let him dispell the neural charge.
A normal active brain.
Doyoung's
The energy still sips through the body in physical manifestations: a bouncing leg, walking on heels, cracking of knuckles, chirps, jumps, poking of others. However, it's not an outlet, just the energy leaking through cracks. Doyoung can't sit still and can't tolerate boredome. He needs to make himself busy and active.
I actually started to write this post because of this 2Dongs moment. An example of a very happy Doyoung unleashing his positive energy on a person nearby. Literally rubbing off the excessive charge, lol.
These last couple of shows gave us a new Doyoung - a Doyoung free of worries in his pure excited and content form. His solo career progresses well and he is working on his second album, WayV and Wish are doing well (NCT as a brand), 127 as well (the motivation of the members) despite the absence of Jae and Tae. Evidently currently there is a good dialogue with SM (A&R team, a good director for the concert, Mark and Hyuk getting their solos, (I assume) an appropriate budget for 127, etc). Also, Jaehyun should be settling well and also not complaining.
In the past Do demonstrated his energy through sassiness and wit (self-protection, he was establishing his position in the group, fought in the hierarchy games), worry and irritation (127 had troubles and didn't progress in popularity as quickly as Do hoped, a constant burden to succeed with every comeback, a chance to change the tide that had to be seized), nagging and micromanaging (the desire to move things, to get to the destination), even a burn-out and tears (when the body couldn't take the high voltage that wasn't spent properly, and a dam had to be broken for a forced release).
Doyoung spends his energy through reshaping the environment, influencing it somehow, making it better for people around him. He is the most grounded when he controls or affects in other way (singing, empathically) a large crowd. Not for the power, for the feeling of others being taken care of/doing well. Then his brain energy is properly channeled, the outflow is big (and there is none to remain and damage him from within). He is social and society oriented, his drive is to interact not with the natural world (nature, animals) or inner world (art, knowledge/science), but the society, other people.
When he talked of being bored being a child, his way out was to join clubs (like an art club), become a class president and run for the school student body. He cooked and invited friends to his house. He was hurt by being ostracised a lot and found salvation in singing (not a musical instrument or computer games, animals). Already then he demontrated how it was most natural for him to apply his energy.
When Do doesn't have things to worry about and people to micromanage (who do everything the right way without the need for him to intervene), his energy naturally emanates in a positive way: goofiness/playfulness, wide smiles and giggles (in the end), lightness, being hyper and extra, and boldness.
This moment (when Do asked the crowd of this size to repeat "2 Baddies" after him) especially demonstrated well the "expansion" (of his kekkai, lol) he does when he is in a right place mentally and occupationally.
It's important that Do said in public during his award speech that he worked hard. He is a perfectionist, he can easily find fault in anything, he is very demanding of himself, it's the first place or you are a loser mentality. So the fact that he is truly proud of himself and content of his own achievements (enough to praise and thank himself) is a sign of him being in a good mental shape and generally satisfied with how everything is going, with his life.
'Please, kind Grandfather, tell me. Is it really possible that all the intentions and efforts of those Babylonian learned beings have come to nothing, and that of all those fragments of knowledge then known on the Earth, nothing whatever has reached the contemporary three-brained beings?'
To this question of his grandson, Beelzebub replied: 'Indeed, my boy, to the great sorrow of everything existing in the Universe, scarcely anything has survived from the results of their labors, and hence nothing has been inherited by your contemporary favorites.'
Beelzebub’s Tales to His Grandson by G. I. Gurdjieff
…‘the paradox of the unsolicited gift’; I shall try to convey it by a parable. There once was an illiterate shopkeeper in an Arab bazaar, called Ali, who, not being very good at doing sums, was always cheated by his customers - instead of cheating them, as it should be. So he prayed every night to Allah for the present of an abacus - that venerable contraption for adding and subtracting by pushing beads along wires. But some malicious djin forwarded his prayers to the wrong branch of the heavenly Mail Order Department, and so one morning, arriving at the bazaar, Ali found his stall transformed into a multi-storey, steel-framed building, housing the latest IBM computer with instrument panels covering all the walls, with thousands of fluorescent oscillators, dials, magic eyes, et cetera; and an instruction book of several hundred pages - which, being illiterate, he could not read. However, after days of useless fiddling with this or that dial, he flew into a rage and started kicking a shiny, delicate panel. The shocks disturbed one of the machine’s millions of electronic circuits, and after a while Ali discovered to his delight that if he kicked the panel, say, three times and afterwards five times, one of the dials show the figure eight! He thanked Allah for having sent him such a pretty abacus, and continued to use the machine to add up two and three - happily unaware that it was capable of deriving Einstein’s equation in a jiffy, or predicting the orbits of planets and stars thousands of years ahead.
Ali’s children, then his grandchildren, inherited the machine and the secret of kicking that same panel; but it took hundreds of generations until they learned to use it even for the purpose of simple multiplication. We ourselves are Ali’s descendants, and though we have discovered many other ways of putting the machine to work, we have still only learned to utilize a very small fraction of the potentials of its estimated hundred thousand million circuits. For the unsolicited gift is of course the human brain. As for the instruction book, it is lost - if it ever existed. Plato maintains that it did once - but that is hearsay.
The comparison is less far-fetched than it may seem. Evolution, whatever the driving force behind it, caters for the species’ immediate adaptive needs; and the emergence of novelties in anatomical structure and function is by and large guided by these needs. It is entirely unprecedented that evolution should provide a species with an organ which it does not know how to use; a luxury organ, like Ali’s computer, far exceeding its owner’s immediate, primitive needs; an organs which will take the species millennia to learn to put to proper use - if it ever does.
Arthur Koestler, The Ghost in the Machine, p.297-298. 1967.
The second reason that social media may be harder on girls is that girls and boys are aggressive in different ways. Research by psychologist Nicki Crick shows that boys are more physically aggressive—more likely to shove and hit one another, and they show a greater interest in stories and movies about physical aggression. Girls, in contrast, are more “relationally” aggressive; they try to hurt their rivals’ relationships, reputations, and social status—for example, by using social media to make sure other girls know who is intentionally being left out. When you add it all up, there’s no overall sex difference in total aggression, but there’s a large and consistent sex difference in the preferred ways of harming others.
From "The coddling of the American mind".
This passage caught my attention. Maybe that's the reason behind fangirls of k-pop idols going out of their way to destroy reputation of other idols? I mean creating temporal accounts, releasing personal information, spreading falsifications, twisting words of an idol, etc.
If a bias and his "rival" belong to the same group, the hated "enemy" goes nowhere, agression pents up and is released in a "natural" way?
There is also a talk about more and more people developing external locus of control (the events outside of personal control and other people drive one's actions and the outcomes). Meaning, fans with the outside locus of control will think it's not the bias' lack of singing skills or lazyness that is to blame, but the company or fellow members. All the blame is then directed at the "rival" with a conclusion that if he is eliminated, the bias will prosper.
I'm listening to a philosopher about the current crisis of identity, the absence of guaranteed reward for hardwork, true media dissapearing, etc. And he says that the reason why people attack others online is because they want to put the moral guilt (from "narcissistic shame") they feel themselves on someone else, and that the prominent figures naturally become easy targets. That the people who feel overwhelmed (by the demands of the current world) want to take off the burden, and joining "the right cause"/"the right side" (becomnig a part of it) is a quick and easy way to feel oneself good, ethical and superior, it's a wicked form of therapy. This "joining the ranks" is a simple step, that requires no hard work (like collecting information, investigating, thinking, asking questions, pondering, making a choice, a decision). A Noname with no own achievements can feel above famous people (who worked and achieved or created something).
The morale of an online group is situational, it has no basis, and constantly changes. There are no fixed norms, morals, values. People can change their values everyday because they don't announce them (they are not public firgures, but anonymous online), thus there is invisibility.
He also says how the ones who start the hate take things (a quote, an action) out of context and surround it with trigger words, make an association or a direct comparison to a painful topic (that instantly evokes strong negative emotions and halts any rational thinking).
Doyoung's habit of pinching his arm, and especially this last video example, is a good illustration of why body language is honest.
1) Habits are hard to control, and sometimes hard to take notice of. People do stuff involuntary. As an idol Doyoung wants to project a clean image, but he fails to keep his hands in check amidst activities. His other two noticeable habits are shaking of a leg and snapping of knuckles.
2) Different body parts can work independantly, execute different commands. Doyoung himself is focused on the people around him, he uses his left arm to make a gesture, at the same time his right arm continues to pinch the skin without a pause. A person can say one thing, but do another. It takes time to stop an action. Doyoung needs first to remember that his right arm is pinching skin and give it a command to stop. Because he is very focused on talking and reacting to the surrounding world, his arm works on autopilot.
I often sit on a high horse of my experience when I talk about fans being too judgemental and not embracing something. It's kind of a passive-aggressive reaction to people being too loud about their views and turning into bullies instead of minding their own business.
People are conformists by nature. Familiar means secure, safe. Plus, the brain doesn't like to spend energy, and analysis, cognition, a new view on things requires brain work and neuron paths' rebuilding. People don't like change, don't like to reevaluate their beliefs, don't like their opinions being questioned, as a result, they act aggressively, protecting their habits, excusing them. Think of Yuta talking about his habit of leaving toothpaste tubes open.
RPS (real people shipping) is a topic that in most cases faces opposition. Why would they do it? How can they write rated fanfics about real people? How can they like those celebrities and then use them for Omegaverse? Add to it the fact, that a person who isn't familiar with shippers and RPS usually hears first about the worst cases, like fans attacking real wives of actors they ship or making NSFW photocollages/gifs with them. It takes time for "the weird" to be accepted as another norm.
People also like simple, certain, black and white. So "hmmm, it's new? maybe weird? I don't know what to think about it" easily, under the pressure of people around, turns into "this is bad, I'll be a good person if I join those who say it's bad". A person who has no formed opinion is given an out, a ready answer, and happily takes it.
I don't know why JaeDo shippers are hated on twitter. Maybe there is jealousy somewhere, but many fans just follow the instigators (who are antis with their own agenda), join the majority to blend in.
So if you see hate for something/someone for no reason, remember that usually, it's just human nature of not wanting/trying to understand a new concept/new behaviour/culture paired with the desire for attention (everyone have to know what I think!).
I often say that Doyoung has “box mentality”. By that I mean that he has a tendency to follow what he knows, what is accepted, the set rules. He thinks in the confines of familiar and established, it takes time for him to accept something new. If we use an analogy with a mouse in a labyrinth, the mouse goes straight ahead, its path limited by the walls. A “thinking outside the box” mouse will jump on top of the walls and reach the cheese in an unorthodox way.
When Doyoung decided he wants to be a singer, he went the straightforward way: participate in singing competitions, create a school band. He didn’t think about applying to idol companies, going to the capital. He said in a live if he could change the past, he would like to have started the training in SM earlier.
In Stick to you the rule was to place one sticker under one member’s name. And that what Doyoung did even when he wanted to choose both Mark and Jungwoo. On the other hand, Jaehyun and Yuta broke the rule easily and put either two stickers or sticked a heart inbetween names. Taeyong showed even more creativity, he tore a heart sticker in two to give to two members. Taeyong is a very creative person and he always thinks outside of the box. It’s not even an effort for him, it’s his way of cognition.
The box mentality limits Doyoung. However, there are other traits that combat the constrains Doyoung puts on himself: smarts, dominance and ambition. Ambition drives Doyoung forward, makes him set goals and find ways to achieve them, get into situations where he is forced out of the box (by other people showing an example, by circumstances). Smarts make him a quick learner, helps him to correct and rethink what he knows, accept the changes. Dominance allows him to get free from the constraints of traditions, authority, to break the rules when he wants.
The idol life looks like a detour (Do sings genres he doesn’t particularry like, he is forced to dance, to spend a lot of time on interactions with fans, allocate his time to the group instead of his solo careeer), but in his case it’s a blessing. Foreign members, creative members, the lore, travelling, knowing LSM, older idols as friends, the need to study languages, etc. - all enlarge his box, make his world so much bigger, his ambitions bolder.
Doyoung can’t suddenly become a very creative person, get rid of his predisposition for box mentality completely, but he is surrounded by people (to name a few: Taeyong and Jaehyun) who will continue to show him how to think outside of the box, offer him alternative solutions.
It’s an example of the positive influence of the environment and experience. When “nurture” corrects “nature”.
