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[the-indigo-symphony]

I think... something I want singlets to understand is that switching, by and large, isn't inherently a bad thing. It can happen at inopportune times, or come with amnesia, or have any number of other complications, yes – but for many of us it's just part of being a system (any negative effects included). Switching is just something that happens, whether it's involuntary, voluntary, or some mixture of the two. You don't have to pity us for switching. You don't have to worry if we tell you that we feel like we're going to switch. It's just something that happens, and if we're telling you, it's because we trust you to know why we may be out of sorts for a bit before we find our footing with the new fronting situation. It's alright. It's just a part of life for most of us, so don't stress about it.

[skirmishing-barnstormer]

hi hello!

Im a new gw2 blog because i wanted somewhere to put my blorbos since I heard the community here was great

would you be so kind as to reblog if you’re a gw2 centric blog? Plz and Thank (oh, and nice to meet you~)

[the-indigo-symphony]

Hey, you. You, who wants to talk about your own plural experiences but fears that your post idea is "dumb" or "too obvious/common to talk about" or "cringe". Practically every time I talk about something system related that I think is common knowledge, I get at least one person/system who responds in some manner of "I learned something new from this" or "this was really helpful". Make that post. Chances are high that at least someone out there is going to appreciate it.

[the-indigo-symphony]

So, obviously, singlets who are very fluid in their queer identity exist. I've seen plenty of them out there. But considering the number of systems who just thought they were very, very fluid singlets before their syscoveries, I think it would be very kind and useful of the universe to install a Clippy type pop-up that appears once you've collected 3+ fluid labels that says "You seem to be experiencing a lot of fluidity in your identity. Have you considered the possibility that you might be plural?"

[the-indigo-symphony]

I wrote a whole f-cking poem about this that I may or may not publish but. I need to stop looking at syscourse. People are arguing over whether or not pluralphobia is bad enough to care about and what kinds of discrimination it's okay to draw parallels between and I'm just here like. Okay. Great. So anyway, regardless of these slapfights, I'm still stuck depending on openly and specifically pluralphobic family – as in, my own family I directly depend upon who have outright stated their hostility towards systems specifically– to be housed and fed. I have met multiple other systems offline in my local area who are stuck in the same position I am, with unsupportive if not outright hostile and hateful family. We are forced to remain closeted for our own safety and to ensure our basic needs are met. Can we focus on problems like that, please? We can hold the Oppression Olympics after we get a start on making sure vulnerable systems are safe.

[the-indigo-symphony]

"Leave people and their personal beliefs alone if they don't harm anyone" also applies to narcissists/pwNPD who feel good about themselves in grandiose ways btw. You don't need to "humble" them. You don't need to "reality check" them or "bring them down to earth" because they think and process the world in ways you don't like. You don't need to be an asshole to someone for how their brain works, especially when they're not actively treating you poorly due to it. (In fact, even in those cases, you could stand to show a little compassion, because pwNPD don't always realize when something they say is hurtful or comes off as rude; if you can understand this when someone is autistic, or when someone doesn't have any condition at all, you can understand it when someone has NPD.) If someone else's brain works differently than yours, that's not a reason to be a jerk to them, and it's not a reason to always treat everything in their lives with bad faith. Sorry not sorry, stop acting like someone who copes with rejection or rudeness by telling themselves that whoever hurt them doesn't deserve their time or energy with a side of "I'm actually a great person and way better than them" is personally attacking you. Stop acting like someone who takes care of their mental health through positive affirmation that you personally wouldn't find useful is kicking puppies. Narcissists don't need your "concern" when they're just living their lives. pwNPD don't need to be "made normal" or "corrected" for expressing themselves in ways that hurt fucking no one. A neurodivergent person having confidence and self-esteem is not a crime you need to discourage. Let disabled people love themselves in peace. Leave people and their personal beliefs alone if they don't harm anyone – including narcissists/pwNPD.

[the-indigo-symphony]

You gotta be silly and whimsical and full of joy sometimes so baby systems know they have options. Remember: you, too, can be a random blogger of shitposts on the Internet, or an editor of nonhuman romance novels, or someone who carries a turtle down several blocks to release it into a small lake because otherwise it's going to keep trying to walk into the road. Just because you're a system doesn't mean you're locked into one strict way of life – and it definitely doesn't mean you're doomed to be miserable all the time, forever. Despite it all, we stay silly

[the-indigo-symphony]

Hey, just wanted to say that Jewish systems, plurals, folks with CDDs, and any other Jewish people (including singlets) are welcome on all my blogs. I've been seeing some subtle antisemitism here and there in the plural community, and I want to tell you all: knock that off. Our Jewish siblings are not our enemies. Do not speak over Jewish people, do not presume that you understand Judaism and Jewish concepts better than them (this includes using Jewish terminology without even looking up the definition of it – you cannot pick these things up the same way you do casual internet slang), and do not treat them as other. Please remember to reflect on your actions regarding Jewish people, terminology, and concepts every once in a while; like any other form of discrimination that we're subtly taught by the world, antisemitism can present as a subconscious bias, so it's important that we do our part to challenge that bias and prevent it from growing or hurting others. Jewish folk are valued members of this community and our sibling communities and they are always welcome here.