#timesneedtochange

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One of the most iconic scenes in the movie #Hairspray with @queenlatifah and once again the states is reliving it today #blacklivesmatter #hairspraymovie #1960s #timesneedtochange https://www.instagram.com/p/CBZ62u9g_Wiiak7HSJFjITgCmj_gJUzpek3onM0/?igshid=ek8hxkmrpcg

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Change For the Better (poem)

If Love was lost

where would we go

why would we do

for whom would we do for

God is love

He loves us no matter what

yet can we still change

yes we can obama says

change for him, for her, for god, for yourself 

Change for the better and love will find its way.

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Everyone needs to watch this! It can change your life.

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Love yourself

Love yourself before anyone else.

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Think twice

I noticed that many people complained and sometimes that was all they talked about. I had to think of something to complain about when wanting to talk to them. We need to stop complaining and start celebrating. The easiest way to do this is when we have a complaint or a bad thought; think twice. Think of something good or how to solve the problem rather then just complaining about it.

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Change to Influence and Influence to Change

I usually try to be as positive as I can be, but sometimes it is hard. It is especially difficult to be positive when others are being negative. I get so frustrated that I just want to change all the negative people. Although, after reading People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys by Mike Bechtel I understand that it is me who needs to change and influence others. 

Before reading People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys I always thought I could change a person. One thing I have always been good at is listening and giving advise. I am the one friends come to when they have a problem or just want to rant. Because of this I often analyze others. When I notice something I could change for the better I would always try, but Mike Bechtel says not to. Changing people never works and usually ends up badly. Most peope don’t like being told they need to change and often get upset if told so.

While readingI learned that having control is everything. It was me who had to change and control the frustration I had towards negative people. For example, one person who often frustrates me is my father. He always complains about every thing and I can’t stand it. His complaining usually leads to us arguing at each other. I noticed that I was making the complaining worse for myself because I was angrier than him. The anger and frustration I had was no one’s fault but my own; I am the only one who has control over my emotions. From the beginning I shouldn't worry about thigs that I have no control over. My father is a complainer and will always complain, and I shouldn’t argue with him about it.

Some say people never change. After reading People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys I learned that It is not that people cant change, it is just that others can’t change them; they have to have control and change themselfs. However, that does not mean I can’t help them. Mike Bechtel says, “The closer we are, the more they will pick up what they see.” In other words, instead of changing a person I can influence him or her. For example, I can never change my dad’s complaining, but I can be myself. I can show him how I don’t complain, and even when there is something to complain about I stay positive. Now I don’t know for sure if he will ever change, but by influencing I stay positive and hope. 

Ultimately, reading People can’t drive you crazy if you don’t give them the keys has really affected me in a good way. Mike Bitchel has given me an alternative to communicate change by influencing.  I learned that I can’t change people, but if I can change myself for the better then I can influence others for the better. 

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Girlfriends and Boyfriends, Be happy for yourself first.

Be Happy for yourself before being in a relationship. How do you expect someone else to be happy for you if you can't do it yourself.  If you are with someone and they say you need to change and you are not fully happy with yourself you just might do it, but then realize that the thing you changed was the true you and now you are not being yourself. Be Happy for yourself before being in a relationship. Once you do find the one you both should not let the other control your life. We must let the ones we love be who they are and love them for who they are and never try to change them.

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Choosing a Degree

It's not what you want to do, it's what you want to know. Then what defines you is what you do with that knowledge.