#to be validated

[femme-dor]

Baffled that there are folks on this site who seriously defend ‘pick-me’ girls & their embarrassing behavior as having “Autism” or “trauma from girl bullying” as if Internalized Mysoginy is simply a byproduct of mental illness & mean girls in High School and not years of conditioned toxic sexist beliefs combined with self-loathing and a need to feel validated which affects anyone both on and off the spectrum.

[stardustizuku]

So I just updated You’re Everything A Big Bad Wolf Could Want which is a Bakudeku take on the little red ridding hood.

If you like fantasy maybe give it a try

[ultimate-bad-decision]

I have no clue, and I must draw

[desroundtree]

What is validation? Do you ever offer it to others? Think about how many times you have been asked to validate someone’s feelings or experiences but instead replaced it with your own. Think about how many times your response has been about what has happened to you not what is happening to them. Think deeply about how problematic it is to lack the empathy to see what your actions have done to others. 

This is what life feels like sometimes to me. It feels like I have all the validation to give when necessary but it’s as if there is no validation when I need it, want it or deserve it. And to be honest there are just times when that is all you need, simply to be listened to, read, and not to have your situation compared to the other person’s or even to be given fault when you know you own none of it. Sometimes that is just what you need.

So if someone comes to you for validation, if someone tells you that you hurt their feelings - it is ok to apologize even if you don’t understand exactly why you hurt their feelings, then it’s ok to get to the bottom of it. But what is not ok is to sit somewhere and point your finger at the person who had the nerve to tell you that you hurt them in the first place. 

That is not ok, and it’s not tolerated in my world. Not anymore.

[cardinalsandcoffee]

Feeling so lonely right about now

[rurikids]

People who say nice things to me in tags: I read all of them at least twice. Thank you.

[letsgo2themoons]

Tomorrow morning I’m going to test out my Zombie Run app!

Yes! In the fresh morning breeze I shall skip through the fields with the sweet sweet terrifying melody of moaning zombies in my ears! And I will burn my lady fatsies as a bonus! I’m feeling pumped!