Hear my thoughts
Imagine. You have this boyfriend that you have an unhealthy relationship with, but you love him. He use to talk to you everyday, make you feel special to him no matter where you guys are at or who you guys are with. After an on and off relationship with him for 2 years and a few months.
One day you guys were hanging out you ask him if he loves you, and he said, "Yes, I do love you." And everything was going smoothly that night. But say you left to go camping, before you left and when you came back. All you did was hit him up and tired to get his attention but all that he does is doesn't text you back nor ever return your calls. He claims that he's "busy" but the day that you guys were suppose to hang out. You saw him with your friends.
A week or two is past and you thought to yourself, "He left with out any reasons. Maybe this time he's leaving with out any words."
And during that time that he's not talking to you, you were talking to a somewhat old friend. He helped you with your "boyfriend's" problem and he gives you all the attention that he can give you. While the person that you love don't even seem to give a dime about you.
Say you went to see that old friend and you had so much fun. You haven't had this much fun in months. And that feeling grew after he held you and kissed you in front of all his friends with no shame. He asked you to be his girlfriend and you said yes.
And say your ex "boyfriend" lives so much closer to you than the old friend that you went to visit. That "boyfriend" of yours won't make the time to come and see you but your old friend that is now your boyfriend would.
After that day your ex "boyfriend" asked you why you haven't been talking to him. Thinking that everything is okay. And you know that everything is not okay. He missed his chance now you're with someone that actually cares about you and the important people that needs to know. Knows about you guys. But would you give him up for the person you love even though he treated you like some stranger with a whole lot of irreplaceable memories?