#topic: privacy

[tayfabe75]

"I grew up with my parents being actors and that was kind of confusing enough - like, the concept of the meta, you know? I think I might've felt quite scared if my reality was distorted when I was younger."

March 2023: Matty and Caveh discuss the realities of subjecting one's children to meta performance art. (published July 30) (source)

[tayfabe75]

"As an artist, that element of compromise is kind of on you. As an artist, it's all very well, especially if you want to go deep and very, very meta, but if it's kind of infringing on people's right to not be an artist, or not take part in art, it's like- that's not something I would subject somebody to. I'm quite a spicy guy and I wouldn't be doing that. I like being an artist, I relish transgression, I'm suspicious of conformity - I get it, I get what you're doing, you know? But I think we were just talking about, you know, how far would I go? Or what do I value more?"

March 2023: Matty suggests that it "feels" right to value people above work. (published July 30) (source)

[tayfabe75]

"Not being invited to the parties and sleepovers in my hometown made me feel hopelessly lonely, but because I felt alone, I would sit in my room and write the songs that would get me a ticket somewhere else. Having label executives in Nashville tell me that only 35-year-old housewives listen to country music and there was no place for a 13-year-old on their roster made me cry in the car on the way home. But then I'd post my songs on my Myspace and yes, Myspace, and would message with other teenagers like me who loved country music, but just didn't have anyone singing from their perspective. Having journalists write in-depth, oftentimes critical, pieces about who they perceive me to be made me feel like I was living in some weird simulation, but it also made me look inward to learn about who I actually am. Having the world treat my love life like a spectator sport in which I lose every single game was not a great way to date in my teens and twenties, but it taught me to protect my private life fiercely. Being publicly humiliated over and over again at a young age was excruciatingly painful but it forced me to devalue the ridiculous notion of minute by minute, ever fluctuating social relevance and likability. Getting canceled on the internet and nearly losing my career gave me an excellent knowledge of all the types of wine."

May 18, 2022: During her commencement speech for NYU, Taylor mentions finding solace in other teenage country fans on Myspace when she was just starting out, and shares how those spectating her love life taught her to guard her private life fiercely. (source 1, 2)

[tayfabe75]

"If we wanted to hide it, we'd just… hide it. That's what people don't understand, like, there's like, so many ways people could just do shit without any of you finding out."

August 3, 2019: Gigi Hadid and John Mayer answer fans speculating that they're in a relationship together. (source)