#trabsphobia

[bloodonmybarbieshirt]

Gonna share a little personal experience of the mildest transphobia from the weirdest source.

I was intentionally dressing to not pass. I'm scared of my stepdad's reaction when I come out, so I was dressed as butch as I had remembered to pack to go visit my stepdad and mom while I was in town. (The rest of my family knows and is some level of ambivalent "you do you" supportiveish).

I finish up there and go out and in various ways I find myself at an unfamiliar aquarium supply store. I was waiting for an attendant to finish up and some tall white guy with a good haircut standing next to me goes "nice boots, man". I go "huh, guess the not passing fit works" and then realize, hey, I like my boots too! So I start happily trying to nerd out about boots with this guy, talking about the boots themselves, the construction, the buying experience vs other, better constructed brands (I was wearing red wing iron rangers, a "respectable but not special" high end boot. I wear a women's 11 wide and large, dark boots make your feet look bigger). After about 20 seconds I realize this guy knows absolutely nothing about boots, but he is politely bemused and seems to be enjoying the talk so why not, guess I'll keep talking with him. He keeps somewhat friendly-ly talking about men's fashion and boot construction and we bitch about how there are no good cobblers near here and how we both travel for that sort of thing.

Then about a minute in I notice his tattoo on his right inner arm. It says "proud boy" in a font that looks exactly like the bellingcat font. Then it all clicks - I look like a not PERFECTLY well passing trans woman, he's literally a proud boy, he was trying to test the waters to see if he should hate crime me and I limbo'd under it being socially okay to be weird about my gender by just unironically loving men's fashion as a woman.

Either that or I'm misinterpreting his literal proud boy tattoo.

I paid for my mouse and left and then my truck broke down twice on the drive home. Ah well, it's a living.

Anyways here's a photo of the "trying to not pass" fit taken from my stepdad's weirdly large and well decorated bathroom. No I'm not sure how my stepdad hasn't figured it out yet.

[uncanny-tranny]

Some Cis™ people really think that trans children are basically undergoing SRS and hormones at like age seven and not,,, changing the child's name (not even legally), their pronouns, their clothes, and that's only if their parents actually accept them and don't see them as a curse because they're trans.

[deepspacepirate]

People need to hang around pre/non-HRT/non-passing trans people more. It really helps you get used to dismantling 1) your preconceived notions about what features are considered masculine or feminine and 2) the idea that "passing" is the ultimate goal of trans people. Look at pictures of trans people. Many will not pass. You will likely feel uneasy. You will likely have a gut reaction/thought that is transphobic. That is okay. That is normal when you've been raised in a highly gendered society. Confront those thoughts. Do not try to eradicate them or stop yourself from thinking them at all, but rather understand their origin, and recognize that these are not your thoughts; they are thoughts that society has drilled into you. If you have these thoughts, don't feel ashamed or get angry at yourself. Just gently remind yourself of the thoughts you would like to have. Eventually there will come a time when those transphobic thoughts cease being your first instinct.

[explodingcosplay]

Way to be transphobic. Just because you personally aren't attracted to trans men does not mean that a gay man can't be attracted to a trans man. Like what the fuck type of logic is that??

[luckystarhaley]

So, I keep getting misgendered... like almost every day now. I had a long gap of being gendered correctly or at least not being gendered at all. Just feels shitty. I am thinking I am giving up on fighting patriarchal bullshit and not performing femininity. I don't always wear make up because I work in a basement. But now I think I just need to wake up the extra half hour or hour to do makeup. It really just kills me to be called "sir" or "him" or whatever. Blah. Feel free to comment if you have any advice or thoughts or feelings. Just exhausted from living in this bullshit.

[foodfantasycanele]

(in between the 4th and 5th was just a bunch of examples of pronouns being incorrect in translation) this is why i dont use global chats lmao discussion of hotdog caught my eye and as a trans person, i naturally have an extreme morbid curiosity that forces me to view convos that i know will make me uncomfortable. i wasnt wrong, i guess. "wait til tunglr sees this lel kek xD" me: *already has been screenshotting this* oopsies :-3 also i love the person who's like "dont shove ur headcanons down our throat!!" in reference to hotdog when someone already mentioned how in her story it literally says she hates being called a man. love the slur, too. also if these ppl see this hi 👋👋👋sorry for posting u

[aluminiko-m]

when people like a transphobic person and defend them I lose ten years of my life

[uncanny-tranny]

The venn diagram of transphobes and clownery is a circle.