it's such a silly thing to feel upset about, but my family has this stupid tradition around Thanksgiving where you call someone in the family and you gobble at them and then hang up. you then have to pass the gobble along until it completes the circle.
we've done this for a long time since all moving out of the house, and I'm really bad at it because I don't just hang up I start talking and laughing and catching up with whoever I called, but I digress.
this year I didn't get a gobble.
no one called me, no one reached out until much later to day and it was my mom who is the only one talking to me right now. she texted to tell me happy holidays and then to brag about how much fun she had with my siblings and niece and nephew, how my brother in law is the perfect host and then when she asked me if I had a good Thanksgiving I tod her all about what I did that day and how happy I was and she said, "Oh well, maybe next year you'll have fun at a family holiday"
and it just fuckign sucks. I'm not going to it. I'm being shut out because no one can refer to me properly and even though I DID have an excellent day and spent it with my love I feel upset about the reality of my situation which is that my family would rather continue to be nasty to me than use my name and pronouns.