I am not transmasc and I am not transfem. I am neither completely cis nor completely trans, because these words were not made to describe the lives of people like me. I am intersex and agender and experienced ISIG.
I experience certian struggles and oppression faced by trans men and by trans women, but I do not have a 1:1 experience with either. I am very much aware of when people from one group of trans people make false assumptions and assertions about another based on ideas not informed by lived-experience.
I see transmascs making transmisogynistic assumptions about the lives of transfemmes and I personally know that is wrong because of my personal experiences, so when I see that, I say something about it.
I see transfems make transandrophobic assumptions about the lives of transmascs and I personally know that is wrong because of my personal experiences, so when I see that, I say something about it.
This is in addition to listening to people when they speak on experiences I am not familiar with.
I think you all need to do a better job believing each other when you hear people start talking about the pain of living in cisnormative patriarchy. It's not a suffering contest.
There is a serious problem in the transfeminist movement regarding the belief that it is not only ok to ignore and dismiss trans men, but that it is transfeminist to do so, because they are men. Yes. We tell cis men to sit down and listen to women because they are priveleged and need to learn to awknoledge that privelege. But the thing is that isn't something you can just, map onto trans men, considering trans men are demonstrably not empowered to harm and granted privelege the same way cis men or cis women are. Transmasculinity is not a source of gendered privelege. Trans men and mascs are gender-marginalized and deserve to contribute to trans/feminist theory just as much as any other gender-marginalized group. The sheer dismissal of that fact is why I talk about transandrophobia so goddamn often despite this being a mainly intersex-focused activism blog.