#transfems interact

[yourperfextqueen]

There's something very fascinating about the idea of puppet strings, especially in an immaterial way. Controlling someone by being physically stronger than them and having them be attached to me is one thing, but it's far nicer to imagine either machinery or some kind of magic around strings metaphysically yanking someone's limbs around is another. To make someone dance for me with a twitch of my wrist, to idly wiggle a finger and watch them make their tortured way across the stage. Or just play at mundane scenes of domesticity with them. Cooking with a frying pan full of food with one hand while forcing them to open the door and walk in with the other. Doing an uncanny impression of their voice, "Darling, I'm home!" Watching the pain their eyes as I ask how their day was, letting my hand relax for just a second and having them so used to it being pointless to strain against their strings so they simply collapse in a chair. "Gosh, you relaxed so quickly! You must be exhausted. Forcing them to bob their head, and saying with false concern "Oh, you poor thing, let me get you some food." And you chew, without your consent, and swallow, and it tastes good! It's all of your favorite things, made just for you, spoon-fed to you by the woman sitting across the table. But you have no choice but the learn to enjoy it, do you? You can still see her fingers dancing in their infernal rhythm, and you can still feel you jaw being jerked open and closed again as you chew. You are a marionette, a toy, and nothing more.

[yourperfextqueen]

There are several people who regularly like my posts, don't follow me, and have never reblogged me. Just wanted to say hi to all of you, and that I see you, and that even if you're too shy to interact publicly, you're still adorable.

[dykeulous]

so, for context. this was under a post of a transmasc who spoke about transmasc issues, and they called it misandry. i corrected them & said that what they experience is misogyny (+ transphobia). a transfem (person in the screenshots) commented how the people who say misandry doesn’t exist don’t know what they’re talking about because transmascs exist, to which i replied that we faced misogyny (& told them (the transfem) to be safe). they replied back, something along the lines of “my heart goes to you <3 we do need a term for the oppression transmascs face” & i agreed with them. they then followed me, and started replying to the others comments that i left under that post (the screenshots above). i seriously want to get to know transfems who are, you know, fucking normal. i do not want to have biases about them. but it’s hard when this is literally the majority of them, seemingly. they started off as loving & nice, and as soon as they saw that i disagree with them, they resorted to insults, and saying they didn’t care about “staying civilized” (when i was). they need to stop talking bs about radfeminism, and if they’re going to– they need to at least educate themselves on it. “white rich women”, are we being fucking serious?? also the whole “the male sex IS demonized”. lol. lmao even. “other forms of oppression stem from the male sex being demonized”– they are so clearly a mra, and they aren’t even attempting to cover that up. i seriously want to stay nuanced, but it’s genuinely hard when i keep encountering transfems who full-on claim that misandry is this fucking systemic axis of oppression that violently and unjustly punishes male people, and female people are just so privileged– when female people speak up about their oppression, we are just such red flags. and apparently also bio essentialist– oh, just how much we would benefit if they wanted to learn the definition of bio essentialism.

“other forms of oppression stem from the male sex being demonized, such as intersexism and transmisogyny” both are wrong. the male sex is not “demonized”, the traits this person listed are in fact celebrated on a male literally everywhere you go– the problem is when someone who is not male has them. butch lesbians & gnc women in general, tomboys, female people on t, intersex female people– when any of these groups possesses any of the traits you listed, they are demonized. intersexism is discrimination against intersex people– claiming that it originated from the oppression of male people (what the actual fuck i actually don’t even know how to put my frustration into words??) is just simply tone-deaf & insensitive to the fucking end. comparing real, tangible oppression of intersex people, to this imaginary word that describes an axis of oppression that is real by zero evidence– is actually fucking vile. transmisogyny did not originate from “misandry”, either. it’s ridiculous to claim it did. to claim that trans women, transfems & male dysphoric people are oppressed for being male– is this a mask-off moment?? transmisogyny stems from gncphobia, homophobia, misogyny, and the systemic discrimination against dysphoric folk– not from this so-called misandry.

i genuinely do want the best for transfems. i try to be respectful. i try to be nuanced. i try my best & i never give up on diplomacy, but god fuck. some of you are fucking insufferable. i need to meet transfems who will interact with me in good faith, who won’t resort to insults as soon as we disagree on something. i want to meet transfems & i want to interact with transfems– transfems who won’t stab me in the back.