and. the thing i love most about mrs gardiner and mary's relationship is that she emphasises letting her make her own choices. mary bennet chooses a horrifying colour combination that makes for an ugly as fuck dress that she then wears consistently even though it's ugly as fuck and she very very kindly does not tell her that the colours clash something awful because she knows if she doesn't let mary make this choice she'll never dare to make another ever again. it's so so important to me and yet. i hate watching any scene with the red dress because it's That Bad. but at least mary chose it for herself












