#twilight-zone-sylph

[closet-begone]

hey can i identify as bi if i like women in a non sexual and non romantic way?

yeah of course!!

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Damn I feel strangely sad and dysphoric tonight

So, I just took a selfie when I'm hanging out with my family and posted it on one of my quee discord server, wearing makeup and a dress and all, and when I see my nickname in that server (Rudolf (he/him)) and then looking at my very fem appearance I feel like, a wash of sadness and hopelessness? Also I'm feeling like "how can someone who look like me be called Rudolf???" and overall I feel super shitty. It was a very joyful hangout, but I feel dejected and worse, it's that I'm the only one who feels this because I'm closeted

Awww Chandra I’m so sorry, I hope you feel better soon 🫂 

Ohhh yeah mate I totally get that, it’s such a mood tbh. Cuz like what you want to be like masc and perceived as that but then you feel like the way you look clashes with that and it’s just such a shitty feeling tbh

You’re not the only one who feels like this!! Me and many other trans people have experienced the same thing, you’re not alone bestie!!

I hope you feel better soon, sending my love 🫂 

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

OK so... I have read your answer to that possibly transmasc anon about gender envy, aching that you'll never reach that; and God, what relatable feelings those are.

Maybe the difference is that I still want some of my agabs natural characteristics like in the chest area etc. but is my gender envy valid if I don't hate my agab?? If I still want my breasts and not wanting a penis?? Like, what makes me the happiest is that I want a body that can pass as a cis man no matter how feminine I dress myself; I still want to wear dresses and makeup! And I don't want to be subjected to the same gender norms as cis men! But lately someone tell me that "it looks like you're proclaiming yourself as trans but doing nothing about it" and it makes me doubt myself, ngl soooo I want to ask a reminder from you that I am indeed a bigender trans man

Also, do you think that gender envy is valid if it's envying male fictional characters? My gender envy is mainly from fictional characters with muscular bodies but with "pretty boy" face lol

Yes, your gender envy is absolutely valid if you don’t dislike your AGAB!!

Oh they’re an asshole, you don’t need to transition or fit gender roles to be trans!! You’re 100% a valid bigender trans man bestie!!

Yes, it’s valid!! Bestie literally you don’t need to ask me, you are having human experiences and they will always be valid. Be yourself, validity is a prison, become ungovernable. 

[closet-begone]

Eyyyyy so I'm coming out as a xenogender roseusboy trans man who is a queer ace aro!!

woah!! those labels are so cool!! also, your URL is very snazzy :]

-mod lepi

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Aryan... Please help me... I am struggling with my body image and am in a dilemma whether I should follow a rigorous exercise program or not, because I'd KILL to have a masculine body but it feels out of reach because I don't even have the mental strength to be consistently doing even light exercises!! I feel desperate and frustrated, what should I do??? Maybe I can present masculine from clothes and mannerisms if I'm not buff but I don't like presenting masculine!! I always thought I NEED to be buff in order to present femme and be read as androgynous at the same time!! Fuck

Okay okay bestie first off I think you need to have a clear idea of what you want, bc your thought process seems to be all over the place rn

So, what is it you want? Do you want to be read androgynously? Do you want to have a more masculine body?

So there’s two things to this: one, how you want other people to perceive you. Two, how you want to look completely independent of others’ view of you. And you need to find a healthy balance between these two, then work on aiming for that!

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

hi there! i feel so euphoric right now, now that i realize that i am as much a woman as i am a man; i am bigender!! when i don't deny my womanhood and woman gender i feel good and at ease!!

Hey there :D

Ahhh Chandra holy shit I’m so happy for you, that’s awesome!!

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

ok so i think i'm an agenderfluid transmasc right now?? i prefer he/they pronouns, leaning to he/him, at the moment; idk i just wanna say that to you right now jdgsjngjsd

alsoooo if i'm okay with my agab and womanhood, that doesn't mean that i have to identify as a woman, right? bigenderfluid is a nice label but i feel like i use it just because "oh, i'm okay with womanhood, i think i'm not allowed to be just not a woman", you get me? so yeah, for now it's agender transmasc :D

Ayyyy that’s so cool Chandra, I’m so happy for you :D sjdjgjgjjy

You absolutely do NOT have to identify as a woman if you don’t wanna!! Even if you’re okay with your AGAB and being a woman you still do not have to be a woman, you can identify as whatever you want!! You don’t have to be a woman!

You are allowed!! You’re absolutely allowed to be not a woman, that’s totally okay!!

I’m so happy for you my dude aksjakdkfk

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

oh god i really feel that anon who feels connected to their agab and likes men and feels like they're "not queer enough" like!! that anon makes me question myself again hglhglhsldg i've been identifying as a transmasc of some sort (ranging from trans man to transmasc enby) for five years approximately and i STILL utter that phrase!! and look at me i'm questioning again whether i'm just a nonbinary woman or really a feminine trans man, because i'm very feminine looking and only likes men (yep, i've questioned myself and i don't like women that way) and i NEVER felt icky being seen as a girl... BUT i do feel better identifying as transgender, especially trans man, because i feel like i could ID as a nonbinary woman but there's this sense of, idk, "not satisfied enough" by the label woman, i want something more male/masculine!! so yeah

Bestie being trans isnt about hating your AGAB it’s about being happier as another gender!! It’s ok if you’ve never felt icky as a girl, if you feel better as man then u are trans enough!!

I’m saying this as someone with terrible social and physical gender dysphoria—dysphoria is genuinely horrible and has ruined so much for me, but it is not the reason I am transgender. 

I’m not trans because I hate being a girl, I’m trans because it makes me happy and it puts a smile on my face!!!

Even if you don’t have dysphoria w ur AGAB you’re valid bestie ily!!