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🌈 🏳️‍🌈 my name's aryan!! he/him, transsexual bi dude ⚧ 🏳️‍⚧️ queer history, pride, community, inclusivity, questioning advice, book and movie recs, writing, poetry and art, and more! 

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

INTRO

Hi! My name’s Aryan (he/him) and I’m a trans bi dude.

CONTENTS OF THIS BLOG

Resources for questioning people

Photography of posters, pins, pride parades and queer couples

Queer history 

Queer positivity

Queer book/TV show/movie recs 

Definitions of labels, etc

Inclusionism

Resources for allies

And more!

NOTES

I will not boost donation posts on this blog.

Feel free to send me an ask if you’re questioning gender/sexuality, and I’ll try my best to answer! 

Read my rules and FAQ before sending an ask! (Use this link to access the FAQ if you’re on mobile)

DNI under cut!

DNI: racists, sexists, ableists, misogynists, anti-BLM, Trump supporters, transmisogynists, TERFs, transmeds, lgbtq+phobes, biphobes, panphobes, aphobes, ace/aro exclusionists, p*dos (people with POCD are welcome though), anti-MOGAI, don’t support xenogenders, don’t support neopronouns, support shipping incest/pedophilia

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Hi!! I super appreciate your blog and I have a question 🥺 I am currently exploring labels that I feel comfortable with using but I feel like I can't find any proper resources or posts that I connect with 😔

as someone born a girl but identifies as a boy who likes girls, i'm not comfortable with being called a heterosexual or a lesbian (since I don't see myself as a girl) :(((

why aren't you comfortable with calling yourself heterosexual? i know that some transmascs feel uncomfy with it since there is the discomfort with being like oh a Straight Guy and it feels 'less queer' in some ways

i think you need to reflect on why some terms might make you uncomfortable

you also don't necessarily need to label yourself--it's okay to just exist as you are

[landmineblogging]

appreciation for all the non descript trans. all the vagues and in-betweens and still-figuring-it-outs. all you unlabeled flavors of nonbinary or polygender or something else entirely. for some people it's as simple as male to female or vice versa! this is for everyone that, instead, went from Assigned Gender to ??? What Happened Where Am I. it's perfectly valid if your identity is "just whatever" for the rest of your life. you're still trans!! and i am right there with you. how lovely it is to mold yourself

[lovertm]

pins by Abprallen

[tired-mochii]

Emergency: Please help!!!

Friday, May 8th: Hello, everyone. I’m Gem, a bi, mentally ill, and disabled woman in desperate need of help, as I'm struggling to pay my bills this month!!

I apologise for asking for help again. As most of you know from my previous posts, I have been struggling to make ends meet while on welfare. And due to my outstanding bills and ever-increasing debt, it has been difficult for me to make ends meet. These past few months have been absolute hell, and with no other income, I've been relying on the kindness of others to get by.

However, I desperately need that kindness again. I've tried my best to handle my bills and utilities on my own, but the situation is becoming overwhelming, and I desperately need help. I won’t receive my welfare until the 29th, and if I can't pay these bills, I won't be able to pay my rent at the end of the month!!

Again, I know this is a lot to ask, but if anyone could spare any amount to help me, even if it’s just £1/$1/€1, it would mean a lot, and sharing helps just as much. 

Thank you ❤️

£12/£257!!

✨️PayPal✨️

[gothvince]

i talk about transitioning and all anyone ever says is "I hope you don't regret it" what if instead we said I hope you love it. I hope it's everything you ever wanted. I hope you live the rest of your life in utter bliss. etc etc.

[gothvince]

I hope you transition and I hope it's the best thing you ever did and I hope you never look back and I hope you finally feel comfortable in your own skin

[lobotomyallie]

vaginal infections, utis, and extreme ph imbalances are no fucking joke. please wash your goddamn hands before you stick your fingers in someone

[transcockiness]

100%, and in case anyone was unsure - this applies to transfems who have had vaginoplasty/vulvoplasty as well! safer sex and hygiene applies just as much to neogenitals

[homoidiotic]

“T-Fags” is a photography book exploring fag identity for trans men, trans masculine and non-binary people, by @el_hardwick & @orionisaacs_

[loveridden1999]

i need people to start caring about trans rights all around the world, not just american. the lok sabha (parliament of india) just passed the transgender amendment bill of 2026 according to which they're removing a person's right to self determination of gender unless they're examined & approved by a medical board. it's hard enough for people here to get a gender defining surgery because of poverty and being shunned by society as is, & now they're taking away their right to exist. the medical boards are bigoted as fuck. despite protests all around the country they passed it. it is so fucking bleak out here.

[loveridden1999]

An Analysis Of The Transgender Persons Act And The 2026 Amendment Bill

Legislative changes and constitutional protections are crucial in the context of the Transgender Persons Act and the 2026 Amendment Bill. Th

read it

[aquahater]

wanted to bring people's attention to the new anti trans bill that's been proposed in India. This bill literally erases our identity and our autonomy so it would help if more people were aware of what is happening to us in this country

^Community-led Mobilisation to Reject Trans Bill 2026. Please look into it.

Signing the Collective Statement on Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Amendment Bill 2026

Collective Statement on Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Amendment Bill 2026. Note: Translations of this statement in multiple I

[aquahater]

Maybe I should've been more assertive making this post but

THE RIGHTS OF INDIAN TRANS PEOPLE ARE GOING TO GET TAKEN AWAY IN JUST A FEW DAYS. I THINK ITS NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR EVERYONE TO AT LEAST CARE.

I know I was being vague in the original post, and i apologise, genuinely. But to specify, this bill takes away our rights for self identification. Our identity will no longer be in our hands, no longer ours to determine, no longer our own but for medical institutions to determine. It's plain erasure.

Our lives are miserable enough as is in this country so it literally takes nothing for the 90% white userbase of this site to sign this petition or spread awareness. That's all that it takes from your side.

Fellow indian trans people or allies can use this this link to email your member of Parliament about the Trans Bill, made by members of the Queer Against the Trans Bill Collective.

https://webionite.com/reject-trans-b

[tlirsgender]

I think ultimately a lot of Privilege is hard to spot because people tend to think of it as, like, getting free stuff, but it's more about the absence of specific oppressions. Proving a negative is always tricky but if you shift your framework a little it's a lot easier to see, say, "white people aren't treated like x" "men don't get scrutinized for y" than thinking of it as Normal People and Oppressed People and a secret third category of mythical Privileged People who have No Problems Whatsoever. Yknow

Thinking of privilege as the default is in itself symptomatic of . The privilege

[sassywitchprincess]

My professor once described privilege by saying “privilege is about what you don’t have to see.” It’s not just what you have, but all the things you don’t have to think about.

[isuggesttransition]

transition is possible! hrt is possible to get! you do not need to stay this way forever! you can change! you can be whoever or whatever you want!

[feynites]

Tip:

When it comes to stuff like racism, sexism, homophobia, etc, I’ve found it’s usually way better to think to yourself ‘I don’t want to be’ than ‘I’m not’.

I.e. if someone goes ‘that thing you just did is ableist’, instead of going ‘I’m not ableist, I don’t hate disabled people!’ it’s usually a lot better to go ‘I don’t want to be ableist, I should rethink what I’m doing/saying/etc in light of that fact’. Because that shifts your thinking so rather than jumping straight into denial and attempts to defend your character, you’re instead more inclined to look at how your actions could be misrepresenting your intentions. Or whether you’ve overlooked something, been callous, or acted in ignorance.

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

on 13 march, the transgender persons (protection of rights) amendment bill was proposed in the lok sabha.

it narrows the legal definition of who counts as transgender. transgender would go from having the broad definition of anyone whose gender doesn't match their gender assigned at birth, to only including people with a certain sociocultural identity such as hijra, and intersex people.

a new medical ‘authority’ would be introduced in the form of a medical board which the district magistrate must consult before issuing transgender identity certificates, adding a layer of medical gatekeeping.

medical institutions performing gender-affirming surgeries would also be required to report details of patients to the relevant district magistrate and the newly created medical authority.

advocate raghavi shukla called the bill “an existential threat to trans-queer persons across the country”, warning that it risks “undoing years of hard-fought legal and social progress”. her central concern was the departure from self-identification — “clearly recognised by the supreme court in the NALSA judgment” — and what that means in practice. for many in the community, she noted, the legal recognition of gender identity is directly tied to access to identity documents, welfare schemes, healthcare, education and employment. “weakening these protections could leave many trans persons uncertain about their legal status and access to basic rights,” she said.

trans people deserve the right to self identification without having to jump through bureaucratic hoops and prove ourselves to medical institutions and to the state. we deserve the dignity of being respected when we say who we are. we don't need government officials to go through evidence before they determine whether or not they approve who we are.

to my fellow indian trans people, and to any allies: we're in this together. you are not alone. we need to speak out against this and show that we care, show that we will not stand for this erasure, this narrowing of definitions and access. read up on this bill, and the recent history of trans rights in india--i've hyperlinked two articles in this post. reach out to your local queer organisations and ask how you can help, and if they're doing anything to speak up against this bill. make your voice heard. make it clear that we refuse to go backwards.

[femme-4-butches]

Four Asian Butches, Parminder Sekhon, 1997 from Butch/Femme: Inside Lesbian Gender (1998)

[lesbianartandartists]

Maya Newell in 1993 with her two mothers, Liz Newell and Donna Ross. This was part of the Lovely Mothers series by Elisa Halland and Catherine Fargher, photographed by Marion Moore.

source

[lyraeon]

not to be mistaken for toxic positivity again but my god you need to learn to love the oppressed more than you hate their oppressors or else you are just delighting in feeling righteous while leaving those in need out in the cold