coming outs

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hey everyone!

so i made this blog to be a place for people in the closet in any way (disorders, lgbtq, whatever!) to come out! either on anon or not on anon. be who you are here!

ideally, send asks beginning with “i’m coming out as _____.” “i’m coming out as a did system.” “i’m coming out as bisexual agender.” etc etc. you can add any details you want- about you, your story, your experience, whatever. this is just a place to get things off your chest!

the idea here is for everyone to be accepted. therefore:

mspec and aspec exclus get out.

anti-agere/petre get out.

proshipper or anti-anti, get out.

sysmed or transmed, get out.

homophobe, racist, ageist, sexist, antisemitist, whatever, get out.

if you hate on anybody for any reason? get out. 

here’s mod lepidoptera’s intro post!

and here’s mod spacedog’s!

tags:

@behind-closet-doors  @gendermerchant @thexenofaerie @lgbtqcultureis @queercultureis @inclusive-did-osdd-culture-is @pluralposi @autigender-culture-is @autistic-af @autisticcultureis @ndcultureis @npdcultureis @bpdcultureis @endogenic-positivity @endogenic-culture-is @traumagenic-society @ace-culture-is @transneutral-culture-is @aro-culture-is @neurodivergentaf @adhd-culture-is @funnierasafictive @funnier-as-a-system @orxngecrxsh @kanjis-cuddle-cove @gendieanonsideblog @poly3-culture-is 

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Intro Post.

Blog is run by a minor! I don’t mind nsfw (transitioning stories, dysphoria and such are fine.) but I may not answer an ask if your purposely being weird.

Also if your questioning or need some guidance feel free to ask and I’ll give you some advice. I’m not perfect so if any of my responses seem off or hurt any of you tell me and I’ll try to fix it. 

If you wish your ask or conversation to be private either dm me or ask for me to answer privately. 

I am pan, aroace, and genderfluid!

Any pronouns, I go by the names Addy and Loid! My neos are y/n, y/n’s, y/nself. (not standing for your name I just thought they would make good neos) 

Also this is technically a sideblog so if I follow you or send asks it would be through @anonaddy 

DNI. pretty standard.

exclusionists of ANYONE in LGBT+, disabled, etc.

Homophobes, panphobes, aphopes, etc. no queerphobes of any kind.

Inspo for this blog by all the culture is blogs and @closet-begone

Enjoy!

[closet-begone]

Quick update for everyone:

Mod Spacedog is going to be on a hiatus because they've lost their access to Tumblr. And since I don't want to run this blog by myself, I'll be going on semi-hiatus. I might answer asks here and there, but I won't be, like, active. I'm really sorry.

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hey, I'm coming out as bisexual bigender girl! I use they/them and/or she/her!

hey there! that's so lovely of you!! i also love your URL and profile photo, they're super cool! you seem like a really snazzy being to know, ty for dropping by the inbox!

-lepi

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i’m coming out as trans boy, my pronouns are he/him. I confess that I like things considered "feminine" sometimes, like wearing earrings and having long hair. But that doesn't invalidate my gender, accept it!

hell yeah!! presentation is not gender!! you smash those gender roles, i bet your earrings and long hair look wonderful!

-mod lepidoptera

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Im coming out as an ageregressor! Ive never been really closed about it but I feel like I should come out properly

I regress from 0-5yo and its often involuntary or i need help regressing

This is in no way supposed to force you into agere/petre this is just so i can properly come out if you want to ignore this you may but if you do not accept ageregressors or petregressors you can go ahead and leave my page

Ive been meaning to come out so i hope alot of you accept ^^

woah!! that's awesome!! we're agere too :0

also /ot but your URL is so cool!!

-lepi

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I'm coming out as an neongender, glitchgender, youareanidiotgender/offizgender, LEDgender, glitchcoric, liminalcoric, aromantic, grayplatonic, computerviruskin. :]

My name is Virus/Error, and my pronouns are it/.exe/xe :]

oh my stars all those genders are so amazingly snazzy!! and your pronouns too!!! i'm obsessed!!

we've got a headmate who uses .exe (among others), music's very cool :] we've also got one straight up named syntax error that uses .exe/.jpg/.mp3. computer pronouns my beloved <33

-lepi

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I’m coming out as someone who experiences sexual and romantic attraction separately. Not only am I bisexual but not biromantic, I’m only ever either romantically or sexually attracted to someone. Never both at the same time.

This can happen with just one person too (which is confusing so let me explain)

One of my comfort characters is Spencer Reid. Sometimes I’m romantically attracted to him but I’m never sexually attracted to him when this occurs. But other times in sexually attracted to him and not romantically.

I don’t know if there’s a label for this and I don’t even know what I would look up to find a specific label so…? Does this make me aroace or like,,, ??

ooh! i don't know a specific label for it, but i think just looking up "asexual microlabels" or something of the sort would lead you down the right path! i know there are labels for when your attraction spikes, and for when you're attracted to ficticious people, but i'm unsure if there's one that has to do with sexual and romantic attraction intersecting. worst case scenario you ask someone to coin it for you or if you're feeling brave, coin it yourself!

also, if you wanna ID as aroace, go for it! there's nobody telling you what you can and can't do if it feels right- at least, there shouldn't be. if there are, drop kick their asses and find better friends /hj

all my love,

lepi

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Hi, so i came out a few months ago to my family as a non-binary lesbian, they/them pronouns (i now identify as a gender-queer lesbian who uses they/he pronouns) and i thought they took it pretty well. But now, i feel like they almost have forgotten or ignore the fact that i'm not a girl. They continue to use she/her pronouns and refer to me as a girl. I have no idea what to do and i really don't want to talk to them about it.

i'm glad they took it well!! but when they start forgetting like that, you just gotta remind them! "hey, those aren't my pronouns" or "hey, i'm not a girl." simple stuff like that- try not to get aggressive or accusatory. or if you don't wanna be so forward, refer to yourself as your preferred terms if that makes sense? i don't know if that makes sense. either way.

it doesn't have to be a huge big conversation! if they were accepting the first time, i doubt they'll react badly to a little encouragement in the right direction.

xx, lepi

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hello i’m coming out as a lot of things

*inhale* so i’m coming out as genderflux, gendervoid (at times), and a demigirl (during other times. it fluctuates, yk). i’m also a namehoarder, asexual, greyromantic, aroflux, and omniromantic with a preference toward non-men.

as well as the fun lgbtq stuff, i’m also low empathy with npd, bpd, and avpd.

thank you :D

that is certainly a lot of things!!! there are gonna be so many tags on this post /pos

you're so stunning!! thank you for being you <3 ily!

-lepi

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I'm coming out as a sapphic acearo nonbinary who uses he/they/she/rem/fae pronouns and is in a QPR with their girlfriend

I was also recently diagnosed with BPD

woah, your pronouns are so awesome!! rem/rems and fae/faer my beloved <33 also qprs? yes!! you are an icon, my good sir/madam.

-lepi

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Heii! I'm coming out as a genderfluid bi/poly with a male preference, and my pronouns are they/he/she (pronounfluid) mostly they/them, + neopronouns and maybe a xenogender hoarder hehe >:]

hey there!! that's so snazzy of you!! men <33

hoarding neos and xenos is so cool >:3 slay queen!! proud of you :D

-lepi

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I am a (afab) genderfluid and bisexual person. I have always known I am bisexual but didn’t realise it was a “thing” till I was twelve when I overheard my friends talking about it in humanities class. I’ll never forget it, I thought about it and was like “yeah that’s me” in like twenty seconds flat and have labelled myself bi since. As for genderfluidity I think I was like 14-15? And then I went a whole year using she/her pronouns and felt comfortable with that. Unfortunately when I came out as bi to my mother she didn’t take it well and thought that I was just “considering” it [my sexuality]. It was last year that she was talking about (just 15 minutes before my therapy session lol) and said something along the lines of “bi people are just confused” that’s the most heartbreaking I’ve ever felt. Now I don’t think I could ever tell her or my dad about my genderfluidity (can’t tell dad my sexuality either, that’s another whole arse story) cause one of my friends came out as non-binary and when I tried to use their pronouns in front of my mum she just corrected me on my own friends pronouns, like bro imagine what she would do to ME. Anyway this is way too long even tho I wanna tell more, I don’t wanna keep this anon but I don’t feel comfortable sharing my blog either lol. My friends care that all that matters and I’m happy 😁

aw, nonnie, you sound like you've been through a lot of hurt. i'm so glad you have that support system in place, though. some affirmations for you real quick:

you're not just confused. you are valid.

your pronouns, no matter what they are or how you want them used, are wonderful.

you are beautiful.

i'm glad you're happy with yourself and your friends. cheers to keeping that feeling alive <3

mod lepidoptera

[closet-begone]

Hi, I'm coming out as aroace and genderqueer/nonbinary

hey hey anon !! welcome to the community youre so awesome for being a genderqueer enby aroace :D have a great day stay safe out there !!  mod spacedog

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hihi!!

im coming out as aroace!! It took me quite a bit to come to terms with the label but rn Im really happy about it. I started out labeling myself as pan, because, I mean, its the same amount of attraction towards everybody, right? and I faked quite a few crushes to the point where I even faked myself into believing they were real. but eventually I realized that I wasnt having any real crushes and I didnt find anyone attractive.

for a while I even thought I was straight, because I was realizing that I didnt get crushes on girls (I didnt get crushes on guys either, but I guess at the time I thought straight was the default >:() and when I finally figured out that I could still be aroace and want romantic relationships, I aas really sad bc I felt like I was missing out

and then theres the whole problem of amatonormativity. everyone was constantly expecting me to get into a relationship, and although all my friends supported me, they didn’t quite understand. so they’re over here talking about their crushes and people they find attractive, and I felt really left out bc I just couldn’t relate at all.

but the other day I just read this book called loveless!! Ive never related more to a character and I felt really accepted. and I found a nice community on tumblr, and Im finally coming to terms with who I am. It was a long journey, but I don’t regret a bit of it because it made me into who I am now ^-^

aww anon !! :[ /pos reading this made me feel happy because wow . youve come so far you experienced a lot and were so proud of you for finding yourself out !!  thats the thing w society , theres a lot of pressure when it comes to attraction , gender , etc so beings get confused often . idk if youve seen it yet but jaiden animations posted a video about being aroace and you two went through something similar w the “ i might be pan because equal attraction ” type thing so if you havent you can watch it !! /gen /nf :D aroaces who want or dont want relationships are both valid asf and anyone who says otherwise can talk to me >:]] dw anon youre very very valid in how you see relationships and that you cant really relate im glad you found a safespace on tumblr though !! this is a really good place to find beings like you and such :D ooo loveless sounds good i might check it out !! and yes it was long but youve made it anon !! im so proud of you for getting through it all :D  stay safe out there have a great day or night !! ^__^  mod spacedog

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I'm coming out as bisexual and bigender!

welcome to the bi squared community anon !! :D /gen mod spacedog

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im coming out as objectum quoiromantic biromantic aegosexual butterflygender lemondemongender adhdgender halloweenic pumpkingender agender genderfluid!!! hi, my name is mon, she/he/they + a load of neopronouns :)

oh my god those genders /pos and your name is so cool!! welcome to the family, mon, you're so snazzy!

-lepi