My mom feels the need to comment on my figure every time I put on clothes that don’t fit properly. As you can see by the pic, I’m not that fat at all, I’m only a few kilos heavier than the guideline, but every time a shirt shows off my belly a little or a pair of pants doesn’t fit right, she comments on it.
Worst thing is, we have the same body-type. We’re both short (i’m only an inch taller than her), and we both have plump stomachs. She’s being hypocritical, but I don’t want to say anything about it because it’s always in a context that she obviously means to be helpful (ie. pull in your stomach a little, your pants are sagging). I feel like she says those things because she always tries to stay near the “ideal” weight for someone her age, while I just really don’t care abt that.
Sorry, I just wanted to vent a little.
This is terrible behavior that we see far too often from parents, including mine.
When you understand that fatphobia has been sold socially as a way to “care” about fatpeople, who do you think is going to be more fatphobic because they care the most?
Yeah, our parents. They have been taught that being fatphobic is a way to “care” and that that’s how they have to act with their children. I can only hope that through fat positivity, we can educate a new generation of parents that will be supportive with their kids.
And meanwhile we will have to call out ours. Any of you who have the possibility to. I know not everybody can afford a discussion like that with their parents because of their personal/specific circumstances.
You are a beautiful person and the bright side of this is to see you so aware of fatphobia. You will certainly make the world a better place in the future. Because you are already making it better.