#twocannon

[acesian]

One solidarity doesn’t invalidate the another. Solidarity is good and I love supporting my lesbian, bi, and ace friends! (Especially ace lesbians and bi aces 💕💖💕💖💕)

Please do not add negative comments to this post. If you disagree, either move on or make your own post.

[doomedgemini7]

See, when inclusionists talk about how exclusionists dont care about lbgtq+ people who are ace? This is whats meant. I commented as a trans aspec pointing out their "love" for trans people obviously was limited to nonaspecs and got blocked. As did twocannon as a bi ace. It doesnt matter if you claim to love your "acceptable lbgt" people because if we're aspec? You dont care. Mocking or posting shit in positivity tags harm any aspecs. And if you want to argue youre getting blocked. Don't protest "not all exclusionists!" When ive rarely ever seen people called out for this. This is a regular behavior i see and im not even a damn discourse blog. Start showing this is unacceptable behavior and I will believe you more when you claim to care

[acesian]

The “asexuality is inherently sexual” argument honestly makes me so uncomfortable as an Asian ace wlw. I live in a world where I’m already sexualized for being a woman, for being bi, and for being Asian. I don’t need to be sexualized for another part of my identity.

There’s nothing wrong with being sexual, but I am tired of people controlling my sexual narrative and agency based upon my identities.

[acesian]

Regardless of whether you believe asexuality to be inherently LGBTQ+, it is important to recognize and acknowledge the way straight people treat aces and asexuality. You cannot claim “asexuality is valid but not LGBT+” while dismissing the issues we face. The following is a repost of one of my other responses on the discrimination against asexuals by straight people that I found:

Here’s a long list combining experiences, research, and outside sources. This article talks about people’s personal experiences with how they were treated for being asexual.

This is a fox news video, where the host and the guests make fun of asexuality. Similarly, here is an Italian radio program doing the same thing.

Here’s an ask I answered with sources on how asexuality was debated as being a disorder or a paraphilia.

The Association of American Universities (AAU) released a report, “AAU Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct (2015)”. It showed that people identifying as asexual/questioning have higher levels of nonconsensual contact, sexual harassment, harassment, and intimate partner violence or stalking than heterosexuals (at rates higher than people identifying as gay or lesbian).

A peer-reviewed study, “Intergroup bias toward “Group X”: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination against asexuals” (cited below) shows the following:

As predicted, attitudes toward heterosexuals (ingroup) were the most positive (see Table 1). Attitudes toward homosexuals, bisexuals, and asexuals were more negative than attitudes toward heterosexuals, revealing a sexual minority bias. Within sexual minorities, homosexuals were evaluated most positively3 , followed by bisexuals, with asexuals being evaluated most negatively of all groups. Thus, not only are more negative attitudes leveled toward sexual minorities (vs. heterosexuals), but antiasexual prejudice is the most pronounced of all.

Less favorable attitudes toward each sexual minority group were associated with increases in RWA, SDO, ingroup (i.e., heterosexual) identification, or religious fundamentalism, as expected (see Table 2). Interestingly, relations between these prejudice correlates and attitudes toward asexuals are similar to relations between these variables and well-established sexual minority attitudes (i.e., attitudes toward homosexuals, bisexuals), despite the latter engaging in samesex behavior whereas asexuals engage in no (or little) sexual activity. Prejudice-prone individuals, it seems, are biased against sexual minorities due to their deviant status rather than sexual actions perse.

Attitudes toward sexual minorities (homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals) were significantly and positively intercorrelated, suggesting generalized sexual minority attitudes (see Table 2). That is, those liking (or disliking) homosexuals or bisexuals likewise like (or dislike) asexuals. Furthermore, a confirmatory factor analysis supported a single factor of sexual minority prejudice: loadings .94 bisexual, .85 homosexual, .73 asexual.

Uniquely human traits were perceived to apply most to heterosexuals and were attributed less to homosexuals and bisexuals than heterosexuals (see Table 1). Asexuals were attributed significantly lower uniquely human traits than any other sexual orientation group. Human nature traits were attributed significantly more to homosexuals than heterosexuals, bisexuals, and asexuals. Human nature traits were attributed significantly more to bisexuals than heterosexuals and asexuals, and heterosexuals were attributed significantly more human nature traits than asexuals. Thus, of the four sexual orientation groups, asexuals were perceived to be least “human” in terms of both uniquely human and human nature traits/characteristics.

A similar pattern emerged regarding perceived emotions experienced by each group. Uniquely human emotions were perceived to be experienced most by homosexuals, followed by heterosexuals, and bisexuals; uniquely human emotions were perceived to be significantly least experienced by asexuals relative to all other targets. Human nature emotions were perceived to be most experienced by heterosexuals and homosexuals, less by bisexuals (relative to heterosexuals and homosexuals), and experienced the least by asexuals relative to heterosexuals, homosexuals, and bisexuals. As with trait-based dehumanization, asexuals were denied uniquely human and human nature emotions (see Table 1).

Overall, participants indicated greater preference for future contact with heterosexuals relative to sexual minorities. Within sexual minority groups, contact with homosexuals was preferred over contact with bisexuals or asexuals (see Table 1). Again, this demonstrates evidence of antisexual minority bias, and contact least desired with bisexuals and asexuals (equivalently). Of particular interest to the present investigation, contact with asexuals was desired significantly less than contact with homosexuals, a frequently studied prejudice target group.

Participants were most willing to rent to heterosexuals relative to sexual minorities. Following heterosexuals, participants were most willing to rent to homosexuals or asexuals, and least to bisexuals. The same pattern was observed with regard to hiring decisions (see Table 1). Overall, participants intended to discriminate against sexual minorities (including asexuals), with most bias directed toward bisexuals. 

So, asexuals do face serious issues, and dismissing them as trivial with memes like this is dangerous, insulting, and downright inaccurate. 

Gordon, H., & Cara, C. M. I. (November 01, 2012). Intergroup bias toward “Group X”: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination against asexuals. Group Processes & Intergroup Relations, 15, 6, 725-743. 

[acesian]

racism has no place in the ace community

[acesian]

for me, one of the most telling differences between most exclusionists and inclusionists I’ve interacted with is why they made sideblogs for discourse

I’ve seen a lot of exclusionists say they have sideblogs because they don’t want to lose followers on their main, especially their mutuals (though I’ve also seen others bragging about “being aphobic on main”)

yet that’s the exact opposite reason I have this blog. it’s to protect my friends on my main, not to protect myself from my friends’ judgment. most of my mutuals are ace (and not het), and I don’t want to expose them to the rampant hate and misinformation I see passed around in discourse on a daily basis. I’m not afraid that my mutuals will see my opinions or how I treat others. (They already know.) I’m afraid they’ll be hurt when they see the way some of you treat all aces. (They already know that too, but they don’t need to be reminded.)

a lot of exclusionists reblog posts saying “aces are valid! they just aren’t lgbt!” but then turn around and tell us our identity means “no fucking”, or that we can’t have our headcanons, or that the aphobia is just misogyny, or that fake ace moodboards of terrible people are okay because they’re “just jokes”, or any other thing that isn’t actually related to whether or not asexuality is inherently lgbt+. no wonder you’re afraid your followers will see that. 

the way you treat others really says something about who you are. 

[acesian]

If you're white and you claim that asexuality is either inherently sexual or desexualizing, you don't get to complain about ace headcanons.

You've made it abundantly clear that you only care about people of color when it suits you, and ignore how you're actually hurting us.

[acesian]

!!!