Venus in the 8th House - The Enchantress & Enchanter
Venus in the 8th house has a very deep, intense love nature. They feel everything extremely deeply and cannot tolerate surface level experiences, especially in love. Love for them needs to be all consuming, passionate, explosive. They are attracted to individuals with depth who have interesting layers - someone they can sink their teeth into who will not bore them. They are attracted to individuals with a bit of darkness in them, a certain edge, something that makes them different from the rest. Their relationships are powerfully transformative for themselves and those involved with them. Once you’ve encountered someone with Venus in their 8th house, you will never forget them - they leave an imprint on your soul.
They have the capacity for unconditional love, but they will experience a lot of pain in matters of the heart, because others simply do not feel as deeply as they do. These people love so hard it’s almost tragic. There will always be a certain amount of loss associated with love, because ultimately they are learning how to let go. They may have lost a love via actual death, but this is not always the case. If so, this has a profound impact on them and potentially changes their life. Whether the death is symbolic or literal, or both, they exit relationships a different version of themselves than when they went in, and this is the ultimate purpose for their relationships - transformation.
People will be magnetically attracted to these individuals and may become obsessed with them. Likewise, when they are in love, they become obsessed with the objects of their affection. They need constant stimulation, challenge and growth in relationships. A surface level nicey-nice relationship absolutely will not work for them. It needs to be deep, all encompassing, passionate and transformative.
These people are extremely selective with whom they share themselves. They are looking for someone who can match their brand of intensity, in love and in sex. Once in a blue moon will they actually find someone who tickles their fancy - most people just don’t do it for them. To others it may seem as though they are constantly interviewing applicants, but very few make it to the final interview and even fewer will find a lasting place in their heart.
There is a certain vulnerability here, and it may be a herculean task to break down the walls they have built around their heart. One who feels so deeply learns that there is a need for protection of the self, especially when you are attracting people who have darkness in their soul, and this does happen. Venus here needs to be mindful of the people they attract as they more often than not may not be good for them. Narcissists and those who need healing flock to them like moths to the flame. They must remember that they do not need to heal every down and out individual that comes their way, even though they likely do possess healing abilities.
These people have an aura of mystery and magnetism that other people are intrigued by and very attracted to. They will never go unnoticed. Ironically, they attract many, but because so few can actually handle the deep, dark waters these people swim in, they will likely be turned away by the Venus in the 8th. But once a Venus in the 8th has chosen you, you’re done for. These people are experts in seduction naturally, and they tend to get what they want. They ooze sex appeal and drip sensuality from their pores. The women can have you captive with just a glance in your direction. They can draw you in without having to do a thing in the physical - they attract energetically.
Sex is very important to these individuals, and it is a big part of how they express their intricate and passionate love nature. These are the most passionate individuals there are. It is very important to differentiate that casual sex and one night stands is not the style of Venus in the 8th - that is far too surface level. This sex is the kind that is a merging of souls, a deeply bonding and spiritual experience. When they stare into your eyes, they see your soul and this can leave you feeling quite vulnerable.
Sex with Venus in the 8th house is otherworldly as they are mystical individuals who are connected to the deeper mysteries of life, and sex with them may feel like an out of body experience and it likely is. The women are said to have magical yonis that literally drive men wild - they become addicted to sleeping with her. The men are experts at maneuvering their tools. Good luck trying to forget that intoxicating experience and the sense of magic that is infused in you when you are the object of their affection. They are a powerful force of nature, and you may find yourself caught in their web, entranced by their charms, as they seemingly cast a spell over you and your heart. Love with these individuals is not for the faint of heart.