#victum

[hale-my-nathan]

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[baphymittens]

BABY!

[catrincasino]

It is not customary to talk about violence in our culture. 

the stereotype of "the victim asked for it is too persistant. but after more than a year, I want to say at least one word anonymously. writing a statement is not "someone's life breaking." when people broke yours, they didn't think about the consequences.

[fairycat11]

Not ok behavior!

Last night I was preyed upon by someone whom I though was my friend. He offered to help me with my physics homework so I took up that offer. I sent him pictures of the homework questions that I was having issues with and then called him so he can explain how he got the answer.

The conversation was totally normal at first. Then he started to complain about how helping me was taking up to much of his time. Shortly after that he started talking about how he misses me and all the things he would like to do to me.

It made me feel very uncomfortable and I voiced my feeling to him. He made me feel bad for voicing my opinion by telling me how lonely he is and how he misses the feeling of intimacy.

I had to remind him I am in a very happy and full filling relationship right now. He then started asking very personal questions about my relationship.

You don't say things like that to someone you consider your friend. It is not ok behavior. And because of that behavior I dont want to be friends with you anymore!

[roxieroad]

Slut

So, i grew up in a society where slut shamming is normal. Like a girl is wearing short shorts, shes a slut, a girl is wearing tight clothing, shes a slut. And the thing is wearing something conservative can get you called a slut too, but whats worse then slut shamming because of the clothes a person chooses to wear, is we slut shame when a girl gets raped. If the girl was wearing a pair of shorts and a tank top, it was her fault because she was provoking the guy, "asking for it, if you will. But, ive also seen it be where a girl was wearing a long sleeve turtle neck and a pair or jeans, and it is still her fault, why you may ask, because she was not showing enough and the guy wanted to know what was under those clothes. Blaming the victum is so common now that if a guy rapes her and she intends to press charges, that guy will try to press charges against her for "destruction of character" to get her to stop. And more often then not, it works. Rape should not be acceptable. We also shouldn't ask what the victum was wearing, because that does not apply to why she was raped. Instead, we should try and help her by getting her the medical attention she needs, taking her to a therapist to talk it out, anything you can do to help her and to get that rape criminal behind bars, end of story.

[salvagedtitle-blog]

To be Truly Loved

“Don’t kid yourself,” she said, “you don’t know what it means to be truly loved by a man. You have yet to find out what that’s like.”

The counselor said this to me. It absolutely floored me. I have no brothers and my father was my abuser. She said, “your father did not truly love you because real love would not have abused you.”

… And this is where I began to really see the selfishness of my father. This allowed me to get angry at my father for what he took from me and how he used me. This anger would show up throughout the following months as it processed its way out of my heart and soul. It was a healthy anger, a righteous anger.

I didn’t expect to be so clueless about what being truly loved means but I guess we don’t know what we don’t know and we can only compare concepts to the closest things we think apply. I have yet to know what it means to be truly loved by a man. #mindblown

[acidrain1122-blog]

EVERYDAY STRUGGLE

I can’t breathe, my head is spinning I can’t form an actual thought oh my god, oh my god.

He’s getting closer he’s right behind me oh my god I can feel the heat from his body don’t look at him keep my head down breath calm yourself nothing going to happen he just walking but what if he not what if he tries to talk to me I can hear my heart and my chest is hot, hands are cold. just breath he’s not going to say anything my throat hurts I could turn down this ally but what if he follows me that’s probably waiting for so he can be sure we’re alone I’m dizzy everything I look at is blurry what if I pass out??  my legs are getting weak I have no energy. this is insane calm yourself no one is going to hurt you.. he’s still coming up behind me oh my god I’m going to throw up oh my god oh my god can he see me shaking is he waiting to find out if I’m weak I can’t defend myself against him he so much bigger than me… oh I have a knife in my purse get your knife but I’m going to have to slow down to find *I look around theres no one on this street there isn’t a light on at any of the houses* why did I go out at night what if he grabs me oh wait he’s passing me this is the perfect time to turn down the alley and run and GO run, run!! Ok he’s gone that wasn’t so bad I’m safe now. Oh god someone’s walking towards me oh my god!! It’s him why did he come down this street oh god he’s after me he’s going to attack me I can’t breathe just catch your breath it’ll be ok maybe he just lives this way how could he know I was going to come this way maybe he’s been following me and I just didn’t know maybe he already knows where I live pull out your phone make it look like you’re not scared he can probably smell it though call someone so if you get attacked they can call 911 but its late I don’t want to bother anyone oh god he’s getting closer is he watching ok im almost home just a little further oh ok he’s passing me don’t look scared oh god he just looked at me don’t smile don’t say anything act like he’s not there go through your phone but why I can see my apartment from here hes still on the same street don’t go in the front door walk right past your place and come from the back don’t let him see where you live he’s after you he’s watching you he’ll come back and rape you if he knows where you live just breath stay calm you can make it just a little longer unlock the back door oh my god get it together your shacking too much to unlock the door Bethany what the fuck are you scared for he didn’t even hardly pay attention to you get it the fuck together ok in the building run up the stairs just hope your across the hall neighbor is sleeping.. Oh god his light is on just go into the apartment unlock the door and for god fucking sake quit fucking shacking oh what if he’s watching me through the peep hole just get in the room doors unlocked quickly get it the room shut the door lock the door ok you can breathe again

**sits on bed** breathing heavily**

Ok I made it relax it wasn’t so bad I can do that again