May 9, 2019
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Happy birthday!!! 🎂🍰🥳
Thank you so much!
Name's G. I've had rough time this past year. At the end of it all my best friend and love of my life was killed. Gone and out of my life forever. I've been a mess and I'm making my friend's worry way too much since they believe I might want to join him. I don't its just the pain isn't easy my very last dream of him was the nigh of the funeral and all he asked was for me to not cry. He hate's anyone who make's me cry even if it's him. I just want to be loved again but it'll take time I'M EMPTY
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Dark shoes stop in front of you, and you look up in time to see a fedora being swept dramatically off of a brunet head.
“Baba Mitsunari, at your service,” he says, straightening up and replacing the hat on his head. He offers his arm and a soft pink rose, and escorts you inside the club. He leads you to a small, plush loveseat in a large solarium. Tall, vibrant plants surround the loveseat, and you can hear the sounds of a fountain, birds, and crickets.
A trolley with drinks and treats from the kitchen is delivered, and Baba sets about creating a small plate of food, beautifully arranged.
“I can see that you are very sad,” his voice is quiet and calming. “Will you tell me what brings you to the host club today?”
He continues his work as you explain, stopping the moment tears spring into your eyes. He slips an arm around your shoulders, the other hand pulling the handkerchief from his pocket to dry away your tears.
He pats your back gently, urging your head to rest on his shoulder and making soothing noises, until the storm is under control again.
“I’m so sorry to hear this,” he whispers. “It’s never easy to lose the person we love most in the world. I’m glad to hear that you don’t want to join him. I think he would feel the same way, as well. He would want you to live on, enjoying the things that he no longer can. I would bet that he would also want you to take care of yourself. Grieving is a hard process, and a long one.”
He stops for a moment, then continues.
“There are some things you need to realize. The first, and most important, is that you cannot rush this process. Yes, things will slowly get better. In the meantime, don’t hold your feelings inside. They will only poison you. Don’t try to rush things. Even years from now, when you have moved on with your life and are in a completely different place, you’ll see something, or hear something, or smell something, and it will throw you right back to where you are now. Don’t be ashamed, and don’t be angry. Just allow the feelings to flow through you, and then away.
“Depending upon where you look, there are several stages of grief; understand that you may not experience all of them. Understand, also, that their isn’t a set amount of time in which to go through them, nor is there a set order. While these are pretty common, not every person experiences grief in the same manner, or in the same time frame. Please don’t get frustrated because you aren’t following along the way it’s ‘supposed’ to be done. Every person who travels this path, does so in their own personal way.
“It’s good that you have friends who are worried about you. Keep in mind that they will be ‘over’ this tragedy long before you will, simply because they didn’t have the same connection with him that you had. Your true friends will be there to support you, no matter how long it takes. They will understand that you need time. I don’t know what steps you’ve taken to help in your process, but you may want to look into a support group, whether on line or in person, try writing in a grief journal, or any number of other things that can help you through these hard times. Doing these things will also help to keep you from stagnating, from becoming stuck in a permanent state of grief.
“The most important thing to remember, though, is to pamper yourself. Care for yourself the way he would have. Allow others to do for you. Don’t try to do it all on your own. There are a lot of people who care about you, so give them the gift of being able to show it. You said that you feel empty right now, and that is a perfect description. Allow the grieving experience to help you to refill yourself. You will be a different person when you come out on the other side. You’ll be a little wiser, likely a little kinder and more in tune with simply enjoying life, because you know how suddenly it can be taken from you. Honor his memory by becoming a better person through all of this, and be sure to celebrate all of the small victories. Take life one day at a time. You will love and be loved romantically again, when the time is right. And, you will be a better partner because of it.”
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