This is all stream of consciousness so I’m sorry if this doesn’t make much sense. It’s also somewhat personal soul searching so i don’t know how useful this would be to reblog
But I’ve been thinking about fandom and how I interact with it as an adult for quite sometime now. How things can change over the course of just a few years, what trauma does and how it can even affect how one enjoys things, how much you can learn if you just listen to voices that aren’t heard fairly
I’ve been thinking about how, yes white fand0m has a negative effect on things, I’ve also been complicit in supporting awful things, even tangentially. Supporting age gaps that I should have made sure of, shipping pairings with young folk in them. I’m no angel I’ve done those things in the past (tho no ns/fw stuff thats super gross but it was still weird for a grown ass person to focus so much on it. The stuff I supported may seem minor in comparison but I feel like it was still contributing to an awful sensibility within fandom)
I stopped supporting that kind of stuff a while back. Maybe some people are okay with deluding themselves, of not caring about how young people are affected by the decisions of older folk. All I know is I don’t want to be the type of person that ignores others in order to support my own “fun”; I want to be the type of person that tries to do the right thing in all areas in my life, even frivolous things like fandom, because it’s the right thing to do
I don’t know what point I’m trying to make here, just that all adults in any fandom, particularly in fandoms Meant. For. Kids., gotta start thinking about these things. Start thinking about when you should take a step back. Do a little self evaluation, some navel gazing. I’m ashamed with how in general us adults handle things, lashing out at kids and then turn around and say that they’re “”elders””.
it’s high time we talked about it for real, because we were taught as kids by adults just like us. we were affected by their decisions. I’m not sure what a solution looks like (other than stop doing creepy shit) but it definitely ain’t going on tirades about how much of an “““elder”““ you are and calling minors ~ant1ant1s~ or whatever