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HOW A QUEEN SURVIVES WHEN LIFE HASN’T TURNED OUT TO BE WHAT SHE THOUGHT IT WOULD.

Life isn’t always wonderful. It isn’t always the perfect Christmas card scene of happy families. Family events, birthdays and holiday seasons often trigger family tensions, rows, stress, anxiety, loneliness, despair and discouragement.

So here are 6 TIPS to survive these landmark days:

TIP 1: HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS Stop building landmark days of the year to be an amazing time for happy families and joy. It’s often the most intense time for families and people alone. Let go of expectations of how perfect it needs to be and let anything good be a wonderful surprise.

TIP 2: SERVE SOMEONE If you find yourself focusing on sadness, giving to others will lift your mood and create smiles around you. When you make someone else’s life better, watch what happens to yours. There are many ways to volunteer for the less fortunate than you, perhaps in a soup kitchen or by doing an anonymous act of kindness.

TIP 3: Gift yourself FORGIVENESS What if the best gift you can give this year is forgiving and letting go of long-held resentment? This is a great time to free yourself and clear the way to make 2018 amazing.

TIP 4: DO WHAT YOU LOVE At the end of the day, birthdays, holidays and family occasions are what you make them. You can make the time exactly as you want it. So do what you love…..Paint. Run. Climb. Sing. Swim. Serve. Learn. Play. Give. And watch what starts to happen to your endorphins.

TIP 5: BECOME SECRET GIVER How about this idea?….. Make little gifts, perhaps as simple as cookies, write some cards and start secretly making your neighbours’ day with gifts on doorsteps and best wishes cards on windshields! Look out for someone needing a bit of love.

Treat yourself to a meaningful gift and enjoy it. It doesn’t have to be expensive but let yourself have a treasure. You deserve it, Queen.

TIP 6: FOCUS ON GRATITUDE Life might not be exactly as you want it right now but there is always lots to be grateful for. What we focus on grows. So train your thoughts towards the sweet things in your life and watch those pleasure receptions in your brain increase your feel-good factor.

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WAITING FOR EVERYTHING TO FALL INTO PLACE? LOVE YOURSELF MORE…

But what does that actually mean? It’s not arrogance. It’s a healthy regard for ourselves as a worthy human being. It’s fully accepting ourselves as we are.

Making healthy choices for self-respect, positive self-image and unconditional self-acceptance. Here are some signs we are actually loving ourselves more:

SIGN 1: Realising we are not perfect. We all have strengths and weaknesses. We make mistakes. We can grow and change unhealthy patterns without beating ourselves up.

SIGN 2: We each have a gift. We are loving ourselves when we follow the calling to our unique gift to the world and work on developing those talents.

SIGN 3: We stop awaiting approval from others. We work on accepting ourselves and realising the only relationship we actually have is the one with ourselves. It’s in our best interests to develop that relationship and love ourselves into a happy, fulfilled life.

SIGN 4: Self-love means we can truly love. We can only love another to the degree we love ourselves. Until then every relationship will mirror the nudge to love ourselves more. And that can bring on very challenging relationships.

SIGN 5: We invest in our personal growth. We acknowledge that we cannot keep doing the same things and expect things to change. We need help to grow and develop. It’s with learning, self-reflection and self-awareness that we can rise above whatever conditions and obstacles in our path.

SIGN 6: We take care of ourselves. We take care of our body by eating well, exercising and getting plenty of rest. We take care of our mind by learning about new and interesting things. We refuse to neglect our spirit anymore. We take time for things that bring us into balance and rejuvenate our soul. This helps us deal with the daily stresses and challenges of everyday life.

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HOW TO BREAK THE CHAINS AND CREATE A QUEEN'S MENTALITY

Have you been emotionally manipulated into thinking everything is /was your fault?

Now you are choosing to march to your own beat, and love yourself and reclaim your inner authority. YET, those old words/pains often raise their ugly head, right? What if they were right and you aren’t good enough? Strong enough? Loving enough? Kind enough?

Darling, I have 7 steps to help you break the chains and move into a Queen’s mentality. Let’s reclaim your Inner Authority today.

STEP 1: A Queen flips a Toxic Tyrant’s words.

Someone who is abusing another is actually expressing their own internal rage about themselves. All of those vile words are how this person actually feels about themselves. Just flip their wording to “I”. For example: “You will never experience love like this again.” They are actually meaning “I will never experience love like yours again”. Another example is “You are crazy” actually means the toxic narcissist is angry at their own craziness. So try this now. Flip their wording that is reverberating inside you. You will have an insight inside their head. This understanding that will help release you from the shame and guilt you have absorbed.

STEP 2: A Queen is clear about what she will not tolerate.

Personal boundaries and deal breakers are going to save you from a lot of heartbreak. Also knowing that you will not excuse yelling, belittling, blaming, shaming, coercing or gaslighting ever again will empower you. It’s the ultimate act of self-love.

STEP 3: A Queen names the red flags.

Create a list of behaviours that you recognise as red flags as an act of self-love….stick with them no matter how delicious the person seems to be.

STEP 4: A Queen keeps a gratitude diary.

Decide to jot down good moments on your phone or notepad. Make a record of the positive, uplifting things in your life, your accomplishments and how far you have come.

STEP 5. A Queen nips ruminating on guilt and shame in the bud!

Self awareness is great. Self-reflection on how you got caught up in the toxic web is empowering BUT ruminating on feelings of guilt and shame are useless. Switch those thoughts to new, productive thoughts that will create the positive, loving life you want. This is where my ‘Own Your Throne’ Coaching Program changes everything for good.

STEP 6. A Queen finds a healthy channel for her need to help.

Emotional manipulators pick people-pleasers with a helping mindset. This is where you both unconsciously click. Your desire to help/ fix/be of service/rescue. Their desire to take your love as a feeding supply. Instead of hitting your head and heart against a brick wall trying to fix someone who will only take your energy, it would be a lot more productive for your whole community if you found another channel/charity to pour your goodness onto.

STEP 7: Claim the solution today with this Confidence Power Boost here: https://lisamagdalena.com/queen-activation-cart

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A QUEEN’S STRAIGHTFORWARD RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TO STOP YOU GETTING BROKEN …

A Queen has realised toxic behaviours do not exist in a good, loving relationship. Here is her advice to prevent yourself a lot of pain.

TIP 1: Love doesn’t play games. Good loving doesn’t make you feel insecure about anything. They love you. They show it. You know it.

Tip 2: Do not allow anyone to consume you.

TIP 3: If they haven’t called you, if they haven’t messaged you, put your phone away and have a great day anyway.

TIP 4: If they act distant and refuse to tell you what’s wrong…..walk away, go home and do something wonderful for you.

TIP 5: If they insinuate you don’t need your friends now you are together, go and spend more time with your friends.

TIP 6: If they try to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore them completely.

TIP 7: If they play with your feelings constantly, walk away.

TIP 8: If they say terrible, unforgivable things and threaten to leave you after every argument, walk away.

TIP 9: If they discourage you from doing anything you love, walk away.

TIP 10: If they demean you or disrespect you and refuse to stop when you tell them it hurts, walk away.

TIP 11: I cannot stress this enough, good love does not do ANY of these things. Toxic Love does.

TIP 12: Love yourself first.

If that’s a Hail YES! Comment “QUEEN” below!!

LET’S DO THIS!

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THERE ARE DIFFERENT RULES IN TOXIC HOMES….

Toxic, narcissistic households run with dysfunctional rules. These rules are severe and uncompromising. Were you raised this way? Is your home governed on these terms?

Here’s the insight into the 8 RULES that must be compiled in a Toxic Household….

RULE 1: Someone must be blamed. There needs to be a scapegoat. In a healthy family, ownership is taught. Apologies and amends are made. It clears the injustice.

RULE 2: There is no cooperation or compromise on decision making. In a healthy family, collaboration is encouraged.

RULE 3: Feelings get “dumped”. Rage attacks are commonplace where toxicity gets “dumped” on the vulnerable. In healthy families, everyone has their emotions but “dumping attacks” are not tolerated.

RULE 4: Consequences are harsh, shame-filled, destructive and hurtful. In healthy families, correction is productive and not a method to vent out toxic emotional issues.

RULE 5: Family members are conditioned to meet the needs of the narcissist / toxic bully. In healthy families, needs are not always met by others but emotions are validated.

RULE 6: Victims are taught to constantly scan the narcissist / toxic bully’s mood prior to making a decision. This teaches them not to trust themselves and walk on eggshells. In healthy families, everyone is allowed to experience their own reality and trust their intuition.

RULE 7: Narcissistic homes have rigid rules. Flexibility is not permitted. In a healthy family, growth based on new information is always encouraged.

RULE 8: Image is the highest priority. Putting on a front for the neighbours, school, the community is paramount to the truth. In healthy families, relationships are what matter.

I was raised in a Narcissist’s dysfunctional family within a Narcissistic religion. Of course, I would become a magnet for Narcissist dysfunctional relationships as I become an adult. It’s only with education on how to step out of Slavegirl chains to this pattern and learning how to become Queen of myself, that I have broken this pattern. As you can too….

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I WANT YOU TO KNOW YOU ARE WORTH IT, QUEEN!

I want you to remember something. No matter what they do to you, no matter what they say or how they behave. No matter how alone you feel or unworthy.

No matter how long the days are or how bumpy the road feels beneath your feet. I want you to breathe, deep and right to the bottom of your toes. I want you to reach down into the depths of you, into your very soul.

I want you to know that you are worth it. You were born worthy. Never forget that.

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AT SOME POINT YOU HAVE TO PUT THE SWORD DOWN, QUEEN!

You are living your life as a Wounded Warrior. You strive to be independent, self-reliant and successful because you have to be. Yet, you are now resenting the responsibility and obligation that goes with that role.

You are tired of fighting. You have battle wounds and many conquests. But your armour has now grown heavy and you long to remove it for good. But how do you survive without your Warrior’s sword? Little do you know how much more powerful your QUEEN Self is!

Your Queen Self has a core of unshakeable inner peace. It radiates a powerful, strong, beautiful, loving energy that draws good people to you like a magnet.

This part of you was once the Wounded Warrior who has learnt to heal the wounds caused by anger, pain, fear, guilt and judgement. Feelings of betrayal and abandonment have been replaced them with compassion and joy. Finally, you understand that any attack is simply a demonstration of fear. You no longer get caught up in the drama cycle of being a rescuer, villain or victim.

How do you grow into your Queen Self?

STEP 1: realise that you encounter hurtful situations because of the hurtful energy stored inside. Your soul is always seeking to bring you back to health and joy. It uses the law of attraction to magnetise the people and situations that trigger the opportunity for release.

STEP 2: recognise you first need your Inner Warrior to be clear and strong to fight you out of unhealthy situations. You need it for the clearing process. You need it to keep you healthy and safe.

STEP 3: realise that remaining too long in fight mode will exhaust you. You need to rest. No warrior can be in battle 24/7. You aren’t a superhero.

STEP 4: After realising the transformation in your life, it’s time to put down the sword. It’s time to let go and metamorphosis into another state of being like a snake shedding its skin.

STEP 5: Knowing you can fight. Knowing you are strong. Knowing you can face your fears will keep you strong and courageous. So let go and step into your next phase… QUEEN YOU….

STEP 6: It is now time to transfer your sense of safety and security away from yourself as a Lone Wolf fighter into your Queen…trusting you are divinely guided and protected directly by higher intelligence…. Your Source.

STEP 7: Trust. Let go as this clears the old. Your life will transform but it may be bumpy for a whole as some relationships, jobs, homes change. If they are based on the shared suppressed negative energy they will fall away. Relationships based on joy and unconditional love will thrive.

STEP 8: As you let go of all that is not Love ….Fear will no longer have such a grip. You will revel in expressing yourself with courage. You will have let go of suppressed feelings of betrayal and abandonment and radiate the energy of trust. You will be discerning and know how to draw boundaries. You speak the truth with respect. You will find yourself magnetising others who are of a similar energy created from their joy, wisdom and love.

I am GRATEFUL for YOU, Queen!

You might not have the ‘perfect family’ or ‘perfect dinner’ or ‘perfect job’. Your circumstances and choices might not be ideal or what you had hoped for at this point in your life.

But there is always something to be grateful for -

- The ability to CHOOSE

- The air we breathe

- A warm drink on a cold day (or a cold drink on a warm day )

- The fact that someone, somewhere loves and accepts you EXACTLY THE WAY YOU ARE.

If you are struggling today - you are not alone. I am right here for you

And I am grateful for YOU.

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